Thank you for taking the time to reply, I understand your argument and I agree that I’d rather we rehabilitate people vs ban and leave them to problematic views and takes.

I can’t comment on the cultural aspects personally.

My main concern is what Seanchaí highlighted:

“The second was a a tweet by a nazbol (nazbol was literally in the @) that said that disabled black trans women didn’t need to exist. That’s it. That was the post.”

We don’t need this content on here and i want to know why it was deemed acceptable to post in the first place.

Was it meant to be a “shit fascists say” sort of post?

Secondly I don’t think their response to being called out on saying the f-slur was appropriate.

If you vouch for them that this was more of a language barrier/understanding issue I understand but what I’m worried about is that this is a “I won’t do it again” (because I’ll get banned) vs a “I won’t do it again” (because I legitimately understand why I fucked up and why it was wrong) situation.

I guess what I’m asking for is a guarantee that they legitimately understand why they fucked up.

I understand that isn’t exactly simple but can you appreciate that given the amount of random and frankly unnecessary downvotes on explicitly queer content in c/196 for example (a sub that has since its creation on reddit long before lemmygrad, always been a safe space for queer people and uncritically supporitve) that seem to follow nearly all posts, that’s there’s a genuine concern for some users on here that a spectre of homophobia/transphobia haunts lemmygrad in the form of reactionary users.

I’d like to change hearts and minds but I believe there’s users on here who dogmatically don’t like queer people and this does make me feel uncomfortable.

Personally that’s how I feel regarding all this. I want this place to help others grow but not at the detriment of already existing users so again I’d personally need some sort of guarantee that your friend understands quite how badly they fucked up and recognises why others are upset.