Yeah, it seems like they want completely different people. The reason why they feel this way is 1 Christian dude probably doesn’t talk much to women, and is a guy so he doesn’t open up to that many people. Then with her the guy probably isn’t talking/asking about sex because he’s a ‘good Christian boy’. They’re both probably lonely, and the unscheduled “play” is probably what makes them into each other.
My advice wouldn’t be helpful…“Make close friends”…“have a hobby”… “Find something that makes you feel important”. But none of that is about the immediate relationship. So I’d only say “Good luck, making mistakes while young is most of the time fine. Have an exit strategy.”
To be fair, I don’t think Kim has done WAR crimes.