• LazaroFilm@lemmy.world
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    Sits at the computer, opens mail app… Anyways, let’s first check Lemmy. Oh! A post that describes exactly what I’m doing! I’ll just reply to it first then I’ll do the email.

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          Man, your wife is a keeper.

          My ex would say “you’ll figure it out”.

          Then ask me later to send one for her, and get mad that I say I can’t right now, I’m focused on work.

          Then she’d forget to wrap presents. I would have too, to be fair, but I kept them in my office for a month so I always knew they needed to be wrapped. Still wrapped them Christmas eve, but the point is I didn’t forget.

          It was a terribly unhealthy relationship, and her offering to help induces far more jealousy than one might expect.

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            Sounds like it was a toxic relationship, glad you got out of it. She may not be a bad person, just not the right one for you. Did she also have ADHD?

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              Yeah she did. There was a lot of other stuff that I don’t have details on.

              Not “out of it” yet. It feels like the divorce is taking forever, and because we have a son anf no job with benefits I can’t just kick her out. My mistake was thinking after she cheated on me 4 years ago that we could save it.

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      Better to brute force it than to be stuck trying to figure out the ‘smart way’

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      Without medication is there another way? I feel like my whole life up until now has been the brute force method.

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    This is no exaggeration. I use caffeine medicinally too. And very selectively. Like once every few months for only urgent situations. Caffeine has a powerful therapeutic effect on me but unfortunately builds up tolerance quickly and becomes useless and addictive so I use it selectively and rarely but grateful it’s an option once in a while.

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    I used to manage a rock club, and practically lived on energy drinks and takeaways. It’s only the last few years that I’ve found out that I’ve almost certainly got ADHD, and every now and then a meme like this will pop up and give me an ‘Oh yeah!’ moment 😁

    At one point I was working a five hour shift in the afternoon, fetching and carrying crates and beer barrels, going home for a few hours, then going back for another six to eight hours depending on the night. That was at least three days a week with a nine hour Saturday night shift on top. My dumb ass thought it was normal 🙈

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    I do the same. Except it’s Nordic deth metal; somehow it hacks my brain into finishing the report, or code, or email that I didn’t really want to write.

    I save the techno for my happy-place deep-coding zone.

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    Don’t forget the alcohol to lower the stress barrier, when the message is super important.:-D

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    It’s got to be above 120 BPM for me. I suggest UK Grime when you have gotten bored of EDM/Techno. Grime standard is 140 BPM. And British rappers are almost adorable in their lyrics compared to American rap.

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      I might be dating myself with this, but the best hyperfocus music for me is the song GAK removed - By the shizit. Also audio jihad, 32-bit removed, and some others. But mainly gak removed!

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        Amen.

        I don’t “like” emails, but at least I have time to really think about how I’m phrasing things, and will have a written record record I can refer to later when my brain purges all the important work stuff to make room for things that are more interesting.

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      I hate emails too. The life hack is to go for a walk, have your brain subconsciously mull over what it wants to say, and then have your phone on the ready when the words come to you. I have several half-writtwn emails and posts sitting on my phone from when I’ve been on a walk.

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    The soundtrack of the first Unreal Tournament game by Michiel van den Bos and Alexander Brandon get my super focused. Especially Forgone Destruction I can get a flow lasting hours with that.