I can’t really watch anything that doesn’t have a clear arc or start/stop point. Shows are just too long for me. Last thing I liked was Over the Garden Wall which is just a sliced up movie. Love movies though so its not an attention span thing.

People ask me what I do and I cook a lot and draw and read books and kiss my boyfriend. IDK when I would even watch shows lol.

But I tell people this and they can’t understand or get really weird interrogating me how I spend my free time. The happy version of this is some of my coworkers found out I really like dancing and now they ask me ‘are you going dancing this weekend?’ on Thursday or Friday.

  • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]@hexbear.net
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    People will forever conflate your dislike of something they like as a value judgement on their choices, from food to clothes to pets to entertainment. We humans are pretty dumb that way. They could also be dealing with a little of their own internalized shame since we are all shamed for “not being productive”.i like my couch time but sometimes worry i could be doing something more “real” with my time instead as well, so I’m happy for you.

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      Never understood this, whenever people have totally oppositional views on a thing I like, I tend to ask them about it. I wanna know & understand what the thought processes are behind that, it’s neat

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    What bugs me is when people are aghast that I haven’t seen specific movies.

    “YOU HAVENT SEEN ____??? OH MY GOD IT’S SO GOOD LET ME TELL YOU ALL ABOUT IT.”

    None of the films that’ve been introduced to me this way were worth my time.

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      Oh god same. I’ve been told that very same thing multiple times (the last show I was told about this way was Succession) and everything I see and hear from it is just downright boring??

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      I got that experience over and over again about Game of Thrones and Rick and Morty. “THIS IS SO AMAZING YOU DON’T WATCH IT YET START HERE THIS PART IS AMAZING” and from the very start, and then clip after clip, what I saw made he despise each show more and more.

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    i tend not to read book series unless they are finished and i rarely watch shows, too

    i read a few of the rr martin books but never finished and i tell people ill finish them when george does

    also if your media is slice-of-life and it doesnt involve some kind of passionate romance then fuck off im tired of consuming only things that are violence and conflict and shit throw some people who have a fire between them in the mix there is enough pain and misery in the world we need glimpses of fleeting happiness and pleasure sometimes

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      You should watch the anime Bunny Drop! It’s a 12 episode slice of life with a fulfilling emotional arc about a workaholic businessman who commits class suicide to become the caretaker for his recently deceased grandfathers heretofore unknown bastard 6 y/o daughter.

      There is 0 fan service and really beautiful portrayals of the joys and struggle of single parenting that resonated with me as an educator and child of divorce.

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        Ivbe been burned by claims of zero fan service many many times before. I swear if theres one single tenticle or anything slimey and phallic Im gonna hunt you down and steal your fries next time you got to a fast food joint.

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    My instinct told me that “LOST” wasn’t going anywhere and that it was a giant inflating ball of hot air and bullshit. I never got emotionally invested in it and quit watching even while friends and family kept insisting it’s this amazing big mystery that actually became a hobby for them to speculate about.

    I felt so much Cassandra-like satisfaction when they were baffled by the fact that there was no meaningful mystery to solve in Abrams’ giant pile of bullshit inside the so-called mystery box.

    For that reason, ever afterward, I refuse to acknowledge any sort of long winded series unless it’s good from the start and enjoyable within an episode or two or if the entire run conclusively goes somewhere and that’s verified when it happens.

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      I watched two episodes of LOST and then I LOST interest. That said, from everything I hear, it kind of seems like the appeal would have been to be part of the speculation crowd.

      That aside, I’m not sorry I missed it.

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      my pleasure with LOST is remembering the first time someone explained it to me in detail whe it was in like season 2 or 3 or something and me being like “so what, they are dead and this is purgatory or something?” and them being like “no” and then years later i was right

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      I’ve had to put my faith in shows that suck at first but most are older shows where an awkward first couple seasons was expected. Simpsons, Seinfeld, Star Trek TNG, Babylon 5, all had pretty bad first seasons or at least the shows had t found their ground yet.

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        I think the difference there was those rough starts were attempts to do something new or at least something different with an old IP. When Abrams fucks up he’s usually given basically a blank check and someone else’s pre-made toys to bash apart.

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          Fair enough, don’t trust Abraham’s, but don’t blame all longer shows or especially ones that do long form stories cause they suck at the start. I’m on my first b5 rewatch and while season 1 was an absolute grind d thst I got through on the assurance it was a good show, on second watch you see just how much subtle set up is done in that season.

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            Fair enough, don’t trust Abraham’s, but don’t blame all longer shows or especially ones that do long form stories cause they suck at the start.

            I did say I wait and see if a big hyped thing is actually going to deliver after the “LOST” thing came and went. Sometimes it does deliver eventually, and then I enjoy it later after knowing that.

            Abrams contributed to a trend of hype bubbles of pretension that weren’t even rocky starts; they were often promising starts with no actual intention to deliver later.

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    IDK when I would even watch shows lol.

    Big same. I genuinely don’t understand how people keep up with all this watching. I have so much shit to do, don’t they? How can anyone hold down a job, cook for themselves/their family, keep a clean and tidy home, spend a healthy amount of time with their pets, and have time to watch a bunch of shows?!?

    We can usually do one series at a time, and it takes us weeks to get through a season. Movies usually take a couple nights, which tends to ruin the magic a little, so we usually only watch those when we know at have a few hours of free time to invest. And then, if I have that many hours of free time, there’s usually something else I’d rather do with it then sit quietly.

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      Easy! You just ignore one of the above responsibilities, bing bang boom!

      Jokes aside, it’s just like any other hobby. If you enjoy it enough, you make time for it. Or in some cases, put it on in the background while doing something else, though that depends what kind of watcher you are.

      Either way, ITT: it’s valid to have hobbies other than media consumption

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    I don’t really like movies or sports that much and I have had people call me names over it. And then I start talking about EDM or something and they call me names over that too.

    Kinda helped me realize there are 2 types of folks in the world. Ones who are insecure about their life and so try to tear down anyone who is different than them in any capacity, and the ones who are proud of the life they’re living and build up folks who are different than them because they recognize that those people are probably proud of their life too.

    I only purposely associate with the latter and I completely ignore the former. I don’t need some Marvel idiot to tell me that somehow my taste in books is bad, I don’t care if it’s bad I like it

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    I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone that serious about TV. I have a few times read the synopsis of a show to vaguely fit in but thats no fun.

    I did once have a colleague accuse me of being a terrorist because i like self hosted open source software

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    It’s just a preference thing i guess. I basically exclusively watch shows over movies (asian dramas) because I enjoy following a single story line over multiple weeks/months. But at the same time, I don’t really watch shows that often either so I can relate to people asking me what I do in my free time…