• Krauerking@lemy.lol
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    8 months ago

    I’m sorry but their trauma is having a somewhat normal but worrying birth and then not feeling special from being a twin? Yeah no wonder they thought they were special enough to make a PowerPoint about themselves.

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      8 months ago

      First off, that’s only a fraction of the PowerPoint, and she might have made those slides to not reveal personal info to the internet. Hell, this could just be a joke with dozens of empty slides below the visible ones. However, the person almost certainly still has trauma. I’ve met a ton of people who cope through comedy, and a lot of them would laugh at this meme.

      More importantly, gatekeeping trauma is not ok. Someone having a more traumatic life than you does not invalidate your own trauma. You could have trauma from common experiences, like parents divorcing or the death of a loved one, and it can affect you in serious ways. Many people never seek the help they need for their trauma because they invalidate their experiences. Someone always has it worse, so if trauma is making it hard to live your best life, don’t feel guilty about seeking help for it.

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        8 months ago

        Exactly. “That’s not trauma, stop whining” doesn’t help anyone and you have no fucking idea how it affects someone. “Suck it up” is such fucking boomer bullshit

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        I’ve always been partial to the phrase “the worst thing someone has experienced is the worst thing they’ve experienced”. Someone elses experiences never invalidates that.

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        Yeah mine would be

        “Wow, I experienced a lot of fucked up shit throughout my childhood.”

        “I have not yet stopped experiencing fucked up shit. The end.”

        Didn’t take 59 slides while my therapist writes down narcissistic tendencies in journal.

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            8 months ago

            Seen 4 actually and one said I was incredibly rational and beyond their help… Probably part of the “and it doesn’t stop” part of my fucked up life

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        8 months ago

        It’s camouflage for someone who can’t open up, where all the pages are jokes and fluff except for the bottom right corner of page 37

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        8 months ago

        Perfect for the 1 hour session, with 1 minute for Q&A (the question better be quick).

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      Or it is more complex than that. She was born blue, this led to her mother being overbearingly careful with her and her dad just assumed she must be damaged - just one possible thing that comes to mind. The quality is bad and I cannot read more than the titles but what I mean is that titling a slide is probably not the whole story to it. God knows what she has to tell.

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        Oh I absolutely thought about her being born blue being more of a statement of her family’s reaction since she never stopped hearing about it likely, so to tell that story means it was in someone’s mind a lot.

        It just sounds very self aggrandizing to call a power point “My Trauma” and then have a slide that says

        I am a Gemini (I know sorry) I didn’t even get my own toys growing up

        It’s probably a joke but I know people that are like this and would make me sit through a presentation on why they are so unique and I can’t stand it.

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          You mean the twin thing? Same logic tho. Perhaps her parents always put her twin sister first and she was the golden child. Sibling dynamics can be sickenly complicated and, yes, traumatizing. She is not talking about her zodiac sign as far as I can tell. And I mean yes it is probably a joke, but at the same time it might be very pragmatic if you are in therapy anyway. Instead if telling something over and over just tell about the progress you made with a previous professional in a presentation (so that also you don’t forget something important)

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            No no. I can read it. She actually mentions her zodiac sign. That was verbatum from the slide on being “the evil twin”

            But like slides on progress is something this desperately inwant to be a joke cause this implies they are still stuck on minor inconveniences as their source of trauma. No wonder their is a massive backlog for therapists if this is what people are working on with multiple psychologists.

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              Not that it matters but does does go on to make it clear she’s actually a twin, mentioning they get the same presents (“AKA I always get a boy toy” because her twin is a boy as per the picture) but a pro is a built-in friend.