Isn’t the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I’m missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don’t drink?

Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: marx-joker

Hmm, maybe it’s the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage thinkin-lenin

Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn’t say my favorite “The Office” quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I’ve never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I’m not doing labor for someone that I don’t even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.

  • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    3·
    1 年前

    “People complained about” doesn’t magically banish the possibility that something became worse in some ways, especially because online dating services are tweaked regularly to keep people paying.

    People have complained about war for thousands of years if not longer, but chemical warfare, machine guns, white phosphorous, and nuclear weapons are worse than spears.

      • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        2·
        1 年前

        constant threats during war

        Chemical warfare, machine guns, white phosphorous, and nuclear weapons were not constant for all of those thousands of years. They came later, which is exactly my point about how things do change over time and can get better/worse in different ways.

        You still have the untenable claim of “things are only exactly as good and bad as they ever were” and it’s thought-terminating and useless. There’s no purpose to saying it except maybe a false sense of superiority.

          • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
            2·
            1 年前

            Still not seeing a point to your apathy advocacy here. It just seems self-congratulatory and based upon impossibly unlikely presumptions about things being exactly and only as good and bad as they always have been over time.

              • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                2·
                1 年前

                when nearly every single other thing in society has improved since then

                That’s some sheer Pinker-brained smuglordery right there. Telling people that are having a bad time that nearly every single other thing is supposedly better therefore they should never express their frustrations with the here and now is nothing more than a thought-terminating cliche for your own benefit. pinker farquaad-point

                  • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    2·
                    1 年前

                    most of the critiques of modern dating I see also seem to be coming from incels

                    So you’re smugly declaring that anyone single in this thread is implied to be an incel because they’re not smugly satisfied with the status quo like you are.

                    What the fuck is wrong with you?