Attacking someone’s expression of emotion is not an acceptable way to deal with them. If their goal of expressing said emotions is ultimately malicious, then it’s perfectly fine to remove them from a situation where they are not contributing. There’s ultimately a gray area, where you have to determine someone’s intention and make a call on whether they are trying to contribute or trying to disrupt.

To make matters more complicated, sometimes people are trying to contribute but end up disrupting and a judgement call may also need to be made here about whether one person’s contributions are helpful at that time and place, or whether removing the person from the situation is more helpful. An easy to understand example of this is a kid who wants to help an adult do something, like cooking, but may end up hurting themselves or causing a mess or compromising food safety. If you’re the parent of said kid, you might likely still let them participate because it’s a good learning experience. We should all strive to be like the parent, but sometimes we have other obligations and aren’t the only other person participating in an event and need to keep that in mind.

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Why the image though, it doesn’t make sense in context. Its pointless to needle.

Is a person engaging in good faith or not? Are they genuinely discussing and responding with facts, evidence and an honest intention to have discourse with others, or are they not?

It’s quite easy to spot the difference between a person dancing around a point and not engaging with it vs a person having a real conversation and making a proper attempt to respond to someone even when that comment is perforated with the trappings of aggravation.

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Please, while discussing focus on the situation when tone policing is acceptable; let’s not overly focus on situations when it’s not acceptable: everyone of us has those examples

Once again, It’s not a thread listing examples of tone policing.

This thread aims to find a line between helpful mediation and harmful invasive overstepping of your power.

It has nothing to do with any particular Lemmy instance; it’s my personal question