I joined reddit on the tailwind, so it was all echo chamber, we hate newcomers, gatekeeping, automod frenzy, too many rulebreakers, too many rules, etc I could be wrong, but thats what I imagine it used to be like.

  • Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    Sure. This isn’t an attack. Totally not insulting.

    You understand that idiom, but not ‘go on, make my day?’ Even when it’s patiently explained to you?

    It was calling me stupid about something that had nothing to do with the topic of the thread.

    Maybe you need to work on your interpersonal skills if you think that isn’t an attack.

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      Stupid is an essentialist insult. I’m describing behavior. Not knowing something is fine. Being offended by the explanation is baffling.

      You demonstrably expected an explanation for what I said. Which I gave. And that somehow made you act even more hostile and defensive.

      Third time: what else am I supposed to say?

      If there is some way to deal with this, that you would not consider degrading - what is it?

      if there is no way someone can question your comments, that you wouldn’t consider a personal insult - how would anyone communicate with you?

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            1 year ago

            Please quote me being ‘incensed’ and explain how you could figure out my emotional state from text. This should be interesting.

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              I couldn’t prove the sky is blue, if you’re going to be hostile to any text under my username.

              You are complaining about me insulting you. Which never happened. Substitute whatever summary of that is dry enough; that is the problem and I am asking you what else you wanted.

              Jesus Christ, take yes for an answer.

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                  No, you aren’t. That’s the problem. You could just hit Show Context a few times, and see what I’m talking about, where you scoffed at the suggestion I hadn’t insulted you. Or you could remember when you wrote that, like, an hour ago. But you’re making extremely specific demands as if the exact word I used must be the exact word you used, or else I’m completely wrong about everything.

                  How dare I say you say I said a thing, just because that’s plainly what happened.

                  More to the point - how dare I project any sort of internal state onto you, in this discussion of how you have done exactly that to me.

                  I am telling you there was no insult in answering your comments directly and accurately. You cannot believe that. And that inability is somehow my fault. Aaand asking how I could do better is just further insult, and also my fault.

                  The nature of bad faith is that there is no right answer.