I need to vent and I’m sorry if this brings up wounds.

Dad went off on “why do they need to preach to kids about transgender” conflating Drag Queen Story hour, which is just people dressing up and Reading stories, with “indoctronating kids”.

I told him itxs the same shit we had to go through with gay rights. And he’s like BUT GAYS AREN’T TRANS!

I’m like they can be. And you’re confusing drag story hour with telling people that trans people exist because they know who they are early in life so they can figure things out. To tell other people to accept them because that’s what we teach in this country. That Hitler went after the trans people first and that’s how it starts. We have laws on the books against preditors and anti trans laws hit CIS people for not conforming to someone’s preconcieved idea of what a “woman” should look like.

I told him about LUCA ans how 30 years later it was something I was missing that was a part of me and that type of censorship of people who know who they are but can’t finger it hurts them.

An attack against transgenders is an attack against all us queer people and cis genders too.

I said all the crap they make against transgender people is recycled homophobia. The bathroom preditors the coming after the kids the same bullshit. But because i"m not trans and don"t wear a dress it’s not the same . He said he accepted me as a gay person and I said what if I did wear a dress? What if I was better in a more femine way? What if I was trans? Would you not accept me? That’s the treatment. You can’t therapy it away. You can electroshock it away. That is who these people are. That is why they arepart of the LGBTQ spectrum. You’re being thick skulled in not connecting the dots. They are scapegoating them so you won’t pay attention to how much they are going to fuck you over. Read a damned book.

Then he took offense and was done with it.

SO i said enjoy your fascist dictator. And left. Fucking fuck! Just how can they be so fucking stupid and so easily dupped! God damned. I mean it took me all of a few weeks before I understood it was a perspective issue and I’ve been having back and forths with him for months and he doesn’t get it and probably hurt our relationship.

  • ratboy [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 days ago

    It’s so hard to try to deprogram family members. I had to cut my mom off during the George Floyd uprising because I spent so much fucking emotional energy explaining things for weeks and she just would NOT budge. I only ended up talking to her again because my brother told me she had cancer (she’s fine now).

    As painful as it is, it’s important to keep pushing back and having these exhausting conversations as you have the capacity. It might take a long time, but you may eventually make progress, little by little. For now I hope you can relax and take care of yourself

    • Belly_Beanis [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      2 days ago

      What really pisses me off about Floyd (apart from the obvious) is how silent racists are about Chauvin owing Floyd money and the investigation into that entire department for racketeering being done by the FBI. Oh look, Floyd wasn’t on drugs (though it doesn’t matter if he was), there was no counterfeit money (also doesn’t matter), and Chauvin along with the rest of the officers on the scene had a reason to kill Floyd. Which is exactly why Chauvin is in prison and why he was denied an appeal.