Great question and super common experience. A couple things to offer- one of them is human urges general last between 5-15 minutes tops. Eg. quitting smoking and you want a cig, if you can distract yourself for 12 minutes- you’ll stop wanting one. This concept is sometimes referred to as ‘urge surfing’ and is a ACT therapy concept(I mean, its as old as people, but ACT rebranded the wisdom). Also, stopping things is actually a very hard thing to do- but doing something else, not nearly as hard: make a list of 50 things you could do other than porn have it ready, have it somewhere in reach and then try to use it. Remember that scene in indian jones when he wants the gold deity/icon but he knows he has to replace it with a bag of sand the same weight- same idea here, sub it out dont try and just stop.

Conceptually- you have habituated a behavior because it feels good and by having done this repeatedly over years your brain has established a specific electrical firing pattern along connected synapses. What does that mean? It means you’ve walked a specific way in the woods long enough that a path has formed. It is now easier for thoughts, urges, memories and other products of the minds to move along that path. Which makes perfect sense- good news is, any and every time you walk another route you are establishing an alternate neural pathway which in time eventually overtakes the current one. Here is what is so exciting about this, no effort made at walking this new path is ever ‘undone’ eg. been not using porn for awhile, feeling proud and accomplished about it- then oopsie, you look at porn- none of the hardwork, none of the alternate neural pathway goes away- this is like a ratchet system and it only moves in your favor- you cannot go backwards even accidentally . So, set backs will happen, lets try and be non-judgmental and just notice a relapse happened- what led to? was their a trigger? is it a trigger that can be avoided or distracted from?

-Also, boredom is your greatest ally right now, seek out boredom, feel it get to know it, also it generally last less than 15 minutes because you’ll find something else to do. I would literally challenge you to set a time and then sit and see how long it goes until your suddenly taking out the trash or working on that project youve been meaning to get to for months: Boredom is one of our greatest motivators, utilize it. -Use coping skills, if you dont feel like you’re very familiar with those, do a little searching online. Make a list of activities and also of people you can talk with(id make 2 lists of people: 1 who can offer distraction 2. people you’re comfortable with speaking about vulnerable issues) make a list of places to go also. Finally, what is the single most important reason you are doing this? Write that down and keep it with you. -The cost of a new life is your old one. (allow yourself to grieve the loss of the old one, but don’t forget to celebrate the new one!) I’m not very active on here but please always feel free to DM if that would be helpful!

I don’t know if I was ever addicted to porn, but I went from consuming porn to not at all mostly because I felt like porn consumption was a massive time sink that was not worth it. I have shit to do, and I no longer have the time to waste an entire Saturday morning getting off.

You pretty much have to learn how to masturbate without porn. If you’re one of those people who need porn in order to get off, you’ll never be able to cut out porn from your life because cutting out porn is tantamount to cutting out masturbation, and we all know how well abstinence works.

So step 1 is just learning how to masturbate without porn. You can use anything else (ie sex toys), but you can’t use porn. It might be a completely mechanical and thoroughly awkward experience the first time you do it, but at the end of the day, sex is a skill like any other and sex with yourself is no exception. The point of masturbation without porn is to decouple masturbation from porn. How you see masturbation is up to you. Whether you see it as you sensually exploring yourself or you just clearing your pipes like a plumber (assuming you have a penis), the point is that the decoupling has to happen.

Once you’re able to masturbate without porn and enjoy it, step 2 is to quit cold turkey by replacing porn with masturbation. Yes, this sounds very silly to say and silly to type, but if you’ve properly decouple porn from masturbation, it’s not so silly. “I am addicted to X, so whenever I have an urge to do X, I do Y instead” is a perfectly normal statement, so why can’t you choose to masturbate if you feel an urge to watch porn? When I had that realization for the first time, I remember mentally short-circuiting, but it’s precisely this mental rewiring that’s needed in order to get you out of your addiction hole. Instead of going, “I feel like getting off, so I’ll start by consuming porn,” it’s “I feel like consuming porn, so I’ll combat this urge by getting off instead.” You’re flipping the entire script on its head.

The only caution is that I don’t know how bad your porn addiction is and whether my steps will backfire by turning you from a porn addict into a chronic masturbater. But it worked for me, so maybe you can adapt some of what I used to make it work for you.

Porn addiction is one of those things that is hard to get out of because the internet gives you easy access to it. Honestly, I guess you can get bored of it and stop watching it, since most porn content is the same old shit and kind of boring. What I can recommend you is to get a hobby or watch something else instead of porn.

You can use web extensions to block porn websites (that is if your internet provider doesn’t already block porn websites). I think you can imagine things if you really need that kind of thing to relieve your stress. My big problem with porn is that they also always promote unhealthy shit like bordeline incest and other shit.

You don’t need to immediately remove all porn from your life, you can do it little by little and think about how dumb most of that stuff is. I guess for me it’s easier than for other people because I don’t even like sex to begin with.

I’d say hormone replacement therapy, but I don’t think that would be helpful

I also have a recurring problem, so of course I don’t really have solutions.

I will say that the idea that porn addiction leads to harder fetishes is kind of a cop-out. You’re bored so you look for new interesting stuff. Do that enough and you might develop a new fetish. You can choose to nurture such a fetish or not. But there’s also the problem that most mainstream video porn has a baseline level of violent fetishes. You could try images instead, it worked for me a while.

Download a VPN and set your location to Tennessee or one of the states the sites pulled out of.

https://read.easypeasymethod.org/ Worth a try for sure

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Move to Florida. We lost access to pornhub and other sites want an id.

Edit:serious answer tho, you can try blocking the sites on your computer?

I don’t really have a general solution that’s helpful, but I used to have a bit of a porn addiction myself back in the day, and spending way too much time browsing (and sometimes hoarding) content, and it would drive me insane sometimes, so I know what it’s like.

In my case, I was just very lucky that going on estrogen eliminated my addiction due to the effect it had on my libido. This is obviously not a solution for most people, but it definitely was very interesting and a bit weird how my porn addiction seemed to magically disappear in less than a month. I haven’t exactly cut porn out of my life though, but because I feel much more in control now, it’s become a non-essential part of my life.