I’m 370 lbs and today I had a doctor tell me that people who are skinnier than me are all like that because they work out and eat right. Can I get a roll call for the people who are less than 370 lbs and eat like shit or don’t work out? Because I’m pretty sure you exist.

Also, one time I had a doctor ask me “are you sure?” 4 times after I said I didn’t have any breathing problems. Like nah I’m just big.

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      I know what you’re trying to do but you do have a problem and need help.

      Could you not have posted this entire thing without this one sentence? It betrays whatever intention you have, here.

      e. actually nah I don’t really think any of this was necessary at all, in fact.

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      This kind of comment should not be allowed here. The OP did not ask for advice, you are not a doctor and you’re definitely not their doctor. Rethink the urge to say and post this shit when fat people want to vent about their experiences with fatphobia and anti-fat bias in medicine.

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      you do have a problem and need help

      Kind of weird to assume I’m unaware of this. Estrogen and therapy have already lost me more weight than diet and exercise ever have.

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        I am literally so sick of men in particular giving diet advice to women in particular when they have absolutely zero knowledge of or experience with the way hormones impact this shit.

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          Yeah, I think physiologically the estrogen has made things even harder. Luckily, I also care about my body for the first time in decades.

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        When you say Estrogen has helped you lose weight, is this because you’re in a better spot mentally?

        Because it has absolutely had the opposite effect on my weight.

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          Yeah my friend who is on estrogen has definitely gained weight since she started HRT and she’s actually way more active now bc she got a job where she’s on her feet running around all day.

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          Yeah I gained like 10 lbs right out the gate after being stable in my weight for years no matter what I did. But the mental health benefits and in particular being connected to my body for the first time in my life has done wonders for my motivation.

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            That’s wonderful. Unfortunately my appetite has had a harder time slowing down than my metabolism. I’m nowhere near an unhealthy weight but I would like to lose some for my own vanity. To that end, I’ve recently discovered that salads are delicious.

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        My mistake then, I was influenced a bit by the general vibes of rest of the thread.

        Losing excess weight while otherwise maintaining proper nutrition is good, regardless of your methods.

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      It’s not mainly genetics, if your metabolism was so significantly low that you got to that weight eating a normal amount of calories then it’d be too dysfunctional to keep you alive.

      If you don’t have any health effects now, you will in the future. Your joints will wear at an increased rate, your heart and lungs will age faster until you can’t continue. Even if it doesn’t cut your life short, your quality of life drastically decreases. Yes, otherwise healthy people can suffer these problems too but excess adipose tissue is a major risk factor.

      This isn’t to scare you, it’s your life at the end of the day. Sincerely, someone who went from 300lbs and a 16 minute mile to 167lbs and running half marathons.

      not saying exercising and eating healthy foods at appropriate volumes isn’t healthy but uh, you wanna cite some sources or something? just because you did it doesn’t mean this person is the same.

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        You want sources on exercise and a good diet being healthy? I’m not sure if I’m reading you correctly, but this is common knowledge. Obesity has all kinds of health risks (early mortality, cancer, stroke, diabetes, myriad joint issues and pains) and is a public health issue on par with smoking. Exercise and diet are both recommended to combat that, and they also help everything from mental health to immune response.

        Just in case I understood you correctly,

        https://www.cdc.gov/physical-activity-basics/benefits/index.html

        https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/fitness/in-depth/exercise/art-20048389

        https://www.cdc.gov/nutrition/php/resources/healthy-eating-benefits-for-adults.html

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          please read through some of the links i’ve provided in this thread and do some self-crit. any analysis of health outcomes for fat people that doesn’t factor in medical fatphobia (doctors literally KILL fat people) is a fat phobic and unsound analysis

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          would you like to know another public health issue that is currently on par with cancer for the amount of damage it’s doing? that no one talks about, cares to mitigate, or even acknowledges anymore? with a concerted effort on the part of almost every government on earth to conceal the damage it’s doing? when is the last time you heard a doctor seriously mention covid in the last two years? you people love to come out of the woodwork and profess how much Health and Wellness you care about whenever A Fat does or says anything but you motherfuckers stopped wearing masks and giving a shit about the actual fire in the room since 2022 when everyone else stopped because it lost the capitalists lots of money and made your treats stop, i bet. but go on and tell me how much you really care about the health and well-being of fat people specifically, sure

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              Why though? If you’re gonna be concerned about health at least be consistent. Her post history contains nothing about covid that isn’t jokes. I can indeed make a pretty good assumption about this shit because how many masked faces do you see out and about anymore? But you and me both know what this is, because it’s about fat people. It’s certainly not about health.

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                I think you may be assuming bad faith here when that’s not completely applicable. This thread isn’t about Covid so why would that commenter bring it up? Considering that you’re basically accusing this person who you know next-to-nothing about of being a Covid spreader, I think you should take a step back and disengage.

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              No because thin people love to cherry pick concerns about public health and surprise, their number one concern is almost always related to fatness.

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          I’m not going to address what others have, but I specifically meant sources for the very specific medical claims being made, not generic resources about “diet and exercise.” Such as the claim about the relationship between obesity and metabolism.