Fro some reason without paying much attention to the time duration it took a friend to reply I always end up replying within the same amount of time as my friends without thinking much of it, then I’ll see the time they sent the message.
If a friend replies in an hour I typically respond probably subconsciously in an hour (plus or minus 10 minutes), then realize it took them an hour after I respond. Idk why.
Is this something “normal”? Does anyone else do this?
At a guess, I’d say it’s confirmation bias
Subconscious reciprocity due to insecurity and not wanting to annoy.
Much better than those people that send 10 messages one after the other as they think of each thought, and your smartwatch is left vibrating for the next minute 😅
Yes, my mom does that and it annoys the shit out of me.
However, I’ve noticed that it depends on who the person sending them is. Some people get a pass, others don’t.I admit that I do that occasionally but not often. I’m usually a combine-it-all-into-one-message kind of person.
Much better than those people that send 10 messages one after the other as they think of each thought, and your smartwatch is left vibrating for the next minute 😅
Hey, don’t talk about me like that!
I used to do these things unconsciously. I’d read the message from the notification, and reply some time later on. So you’re not the only one.
But now I notice when I’m about to do it, and instead just reply when I can. If it just arrived I’ll reply now.
Only cases nowadays is when a reply requires thought and space of mind for me to reply. so I read the message and remind myself later to re read and reply.
As other mentioned before, I don’t see a point in hiding the fact that I was using my phone at this second. There’s nothing wrong or shameful about it. Sometimes you’re more available, sometimes less. If the other side is busy they’ll just reply when they can. you don’t need to hold for them.
It’s probably that you have a similar or even shared microbiome. Similar living conditions, or maybe your vibes/rythms just sync up over time.
I’d say that’s pretty typical. Nobody wants to pester or to leave someone hanging, but that timeframe is different for every relationship.
Hypothesis: your friends are not too far away from your peer group(?). They share similar hobbies, structures of their days, social environments and occupations.
If they don’t make a conscious effort to answer in a specific time frame it’s just natural behaviour that you respond in similar times.
Because you probably think that your friends behavior is their way of showing the world what they each think is reasonable, and what they probably expect in return from others. And you are probably right. You are meeting people where they are and trying not to disappoint them based on what you know about them. This is emotional reasoning so it’s not surprise that it’s unconscious.
I tend to do this as well, I’m not sure why but I generally respond proportional to how long it took for my friend to respond
I think it might just be human nature, because I had a friend who I would talk to and we would respond back very commonly Within two or three minutes of sending the message, and then they went into a mental Funk where they weren’t looking at Discord anymore. Due to this they started being hella delayed in responding, and I found that the longer delay that it took them to respond the longer that it took me to respond. The counterpart is also true, when she came out of being in that funk the delay went away again I’ve never actually noticed that before and it’s really weird
I think it might just be something that is common nature for socialization, I think we subconsciously use how long it takes them to respond as a judgment of what is considered appropriate for response time and then without realizing it partake the same way
probably people just take about that long to decide what to say and type it out
