I think lots of hexbears could use reading this article. If you’ve ever thought about or have gone on a diet to lose weight, you should read this article. If you’ve ever encouraged someone else to go on a diet, you especially should read this article.
Sadly I’ve even seen my fellow trans comrades pushing this white supremacist line on here many times, which has been very disheartening…
Thank you for this article!! I wish my wife could see herself the way I see her.
CW internalised fatphobia
She once showed me videos of women three times her weight to tell me that this is how she sees herself and why she’s grossed out by her body, but when I asked her if she thinks those women are gross she said no.
She has been dieting hardcore now, for months, lost so much weight with the goal of getting into double digits. This is against her binge-eating to cope with trauma, her PCOS, her having little time to cook healthy and all her quirks around what she cannot eat, or what makes something inedible for her.
I pray it brings her relief.
I hope you tell her that often! I’ve found incessant compliments somewhat effective, but different people might react to that differently.
Oh yeah, at first she asked me to qualify them with “I think you are beautiful/pretty/clever” etc. because apparently it triggered some “he’s making fun of me” knee-jerk reaction in her head, even though she knew I wasn’t. But eventually I could drop it and just make statements of fact now, she still did the thing where she downplayed compliments like “yeah but my cheeks are too red” or “I think my make-up turned well”, but now she can’t do that anymore either because we have a kid and she has to be a good example
In fact my kid started copying me and tells her she is pretty too
It’s gotten loads better, and she finally found a therapist willing to take her so I’m hoping it will get even better, though probably worse at first. Her first question was “Why do you even keep in contact with your mom?” 
and I’m so grateful someone finally gets to talk to her this bluntly and openly, because I have to be the safe and supportive place so I can’t. Big things happening over here