in my experience as a 5’6", queer women tend not to care and cishets do tend to. also i get a lot more matches on tinder where i simply don’t list my height vs hinge where they make you do it, idk if that’s just fewer users on Hinge talking or if the height thing does matter that much (most of my matches are bi/pan women and/or fembies regardless, i’d say 60 percent or so, maybe even more). this sorta works for me, i prefer Q4Q dynamics for a host of other reasons anyway (hate the heteronormative song and dance around courtship and love).

idk also of the two people i met off the apps one was a bit taller than me and was super into me and i was not into her and she was a cishet. but she also had no problem throwing around height based insults toward other men? she had a lotta issues though, it was obviously a bad fit.

idt it’s a huge issue offline where people are just generally more open to each other if the person seems decent and charming and interesting. but with online dating, where we’re encouraged to throw people away for not checking certain boxes (which makes sense to a degree, these are strangers you’re vetting off extremely preliminary/curated data) it becomes more of a thing. i’m not drowning in casual booty but my slightly short ass has had romances with some absolute babes in my time and a lot of these came from in-person connection (all but one)