• RubberDuck@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    When they ask you like that… it’s the cue o have a conversation on the F-ing subject. What are your hopes and dreams, kids, quick wedding or elaborate… you know… discuss what the future would hold together.

    Once you have had those conversations you also know what the answer to a proposal will be.

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      1 month ago

      We did all of that but then she decided she wanted someone who went to the same church, she told me maybe if I joined her church. Her church beat two children to death trying to expel demons. We actually separated after we couldn’t work it out

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      3 months ago

      To me. They are asking you to propose. If they want to have a conversation there have the fucking conversation. Don’t play games. No one can read minds.

      But it doesn’t matter to me either way. I don’t date. I won’t date. I’m done with dating. And I will never get married.

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        3 months ago

        Regardless of what they are asking, you should have that conversation for your own sake, not just theirs. Though I’d also argue that if you are going to get married, you should want to do it for their sake, too. And if you resent them for not speaking their mind, don’t marry them.

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        3 months ago

        It’s not always playing games… some people also just come out and say it… others will mask it with a joke… but then the conversation needs to be had. Not always full serious… we need to talk… but this is a good cue. As the other poster said … for both your sakes.

        Hope you are OK… don’t know how to read your “I’m don’t with it”.

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      3 months ago

      LPT: Don’t give queues that can be severely misunderstood, just fucking ask what you want to know.