I know joking around about men being 90% awful is all fun and games but this post and screenshots of it have been going around twitter a lot and i need the fine people on chapo dot chat to tell me if this is based or cringe thank you

Btw i am a guy

    • AmericaDeserved711 [any]@hexbear.net
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      to expound on this:

      while there are plenty of men who should die, they are by-and-large not the ones actually killing themselves. people commit suicide because of alienation. poor people commit suicide at much higher rates. LGBT people commit suicide at much higher rates. do you know what percentage of “male suicides” are actually trans women? me neither. nobody does or ever will

      the true beneficiaries of patriarchy, the rich ghouls, men with actual power, are thriving, because the society was built for them. the patriarchy does not value the lives of ordinary men - it culls them for profit by sending them to war or working them to death. patriarchy under capitalism encourages men to die, so maybe you shouldn’t

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          hey i’m one of those people that’s stuck in the closet since my mom said she couldn’t bear to live in the same apartment as me if I was taking estrogen. I’m trapped in acting like a guy until I can move out and thus still mentally have to identify as a guy to get through day to day life. On my worst days something like the tweet in the image would remind me I’ll never be the girl I want to be and that I should just punch my ticket.

          Approximately how many people like me would have to die before you realize this is a shitty take?

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    doubleposting but this shit pisses me off. up until recently i was getting really close to ending it. I’ve always had a firm limit in place of “well it would be too scarring for my family so i could never kill myself” but that was eroding for the the first time ever - even my previous suicide attempt was in the heat of the moment with no real reasoning, but this time I was actively beginning to feel over a sustained period of time that I could not go on, such that it was worth traumatizing my family to escape it. I wrote a detailed suicide note that I have actually yet to delete because I haven’t resolved my feelings about it. The only thing that stopped it was getting a job after over a year of unemployment, finally the world telling me I’m not worthless, because in this society worth is productivity.

    i look like a guy pretty much 24/7 due to my environment being unsupportive to transitioning, although hopefully that’s changing soon. I’ve gotten better about decoupling my mentality from guydom, but I still struggle with it because I’m kinda trapped in being a guy for the moment, so things like this screenshot still affect me. Exactly how many people stuck in the closet being egged on to suicide is acceptable for these people? How many actual dudes who haven’t hurt a fly would have to die before they start to question it? It’s things like this that made vindictive suicidal ideation so satisfying. I wish I had the wherewithal to check out and have a dead man’s (ha) switch send people like the person in the screenshot my family’s info and let them know that they helped cause their suffering. See how flippant they are when blood’s on their hands.

  • Comp4 [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    Judge me if you must, but I think it goes too far. I’m a guy at the moment (probably an egg), but there are a lot of oppressed people who fall under the umbrella term “men”

    Yes, men suck, but that’s largely because of the patriarchy and the system we live in. As an other poster said the guys killing themselves are not White trust fund guys.

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      Yes, men suck, but that’s largely because of the patriarchy and the system we live in.

      Men created the patriarchy. Without the patriarchy there would be no men. Without men there would be no patriarchy. I’m not really sure what you mean by this. Under socialism, capitalists won’t largely suck, but there wouldn’t be capitalists. The individuals who would have been capitalists wouldn’t largely suck, but they’d be completely different people at that point.

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        CW: Talk about Suicide

        In short. Yes and men created capitalism. Yet a lot of men suffer under capitalism similar to the patriarchy. The men who profit the most from capitalism or patriarchy are most likely not the ones who kill themselves rather its often the most vulnerable and oppressed men.

        The OP also felt misleading posting this comment in a vacuum.

        I just consider jokes about suicide at least in bad taste having had a suicidal phase in the past. (I fully admit that I have a biased position due to that)

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    Not cool imo. Only time self harm can be remotely funny is when the specific person is a garbage human being. Even then still kinda sus. “Follow your leader” is really the only example I can think of that doesnt seem scummy.

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    I can’t defend the OP but whenever I see a screenshot of it posted it’s in response to some blue check misogynist bullshit with 100 other fascists cheering in the replies and no one can make me empathize with them

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      Yeah this is the key takeaway. Saying this for no reason is wild and pretty antisocial. Saying it as a response to men doing something horrible is basically just an edgier version of saying “men are trash,” which I believe we had settled the discourse on like 6 years ago.

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    Suicide is seen as a weakness, so I think that necessarily means that making fun of it is masculine coded and patriarchal.

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      It’s the difference between:

      Funny: If you feed white people spicy food they will die lmao

      Not funny: I am actually glad that the opioid epidemic is happening! Please I want to see more overdoses in West Virginia!

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    I think this is whatever unless it’s being said IRL

    Women don’t have a rich history of online rhetoric causing them to become terrorists unlike men

    Also, since this isn’t a directed tweet, the golden rule of you can always walk away from the computer holds true

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    Cringe… that’s like advocating for boomers to die off, in my humble cis opinion

    This, for example, obfuscates/hides the struggle against reactionary powers, especially the current economic system of Capitalism and its western vessels, in order to scapegoat one plausible group for another.

    I’d rather we’d abolish the system and its direct, willing benefactors that incentivizes this awfulness, which can but not necessarily equally be nurtured in everyone, than scapegoat the obvious ones like men, baby boomers, corrupt politicians, or religious organizations (tho some obvious ones would, of course, include some of the latter)