• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Tbf I think this is an american thing. I have never asked someone for their hight, nor ever seen anyone ask this. American women are obsessed with men hight.

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      3 months ago

      As someone who’s well over 2 meters tall, I can tell you that no matter where I travel, people always ask. Just depending on the country, they just stop me walking in public, or only after some small talk.

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        But that has nothing to do with the dating thing where a lot of girls won’t consider men under a given height, no exceptions.

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          Okay, now it’s my turn to be surprised, people actually do that? (Mind you, I got married before online dating was even a thing, so I’m probably a ‘bit’ out of touch)

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        Well over 2 meters… wow, that must be inconvenient. I’m just over 6 foot and everything feels like it was built for people way shorter than me. Showers, kitchen counters, airline seats, etc.

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          Overall I like it, I’m a pretty introverted person and tend to stay in the background by nature, but being this tall means that I get noticed no matter what.

          That being said, I’m writing this from the back of an Uber and i can’t put my head straight up here. And the only way to fly is in an emergency exit seat.

          I can only buy clothes in specialised shops, but these days most have web shops, so that has become a lot easier.

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            I appreciate you staying in the background for us shorties to be able to sit in the foreground and see anything 🙏

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          Things like that are generally built to the “average” height to be comfortable for the greatest number of people, which in the past 80 years or so has been 5’ 8".

          I would imagine it would be more uncomfortable for shorter people than for us tall people.

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      I’ve never made height a thing in dating. But! I’m the shortest living member of my family (and by a large margin) so I appreciate when I have a partner who can reach all the things I can’t reach at the store or wherever.

      Why do we even have shelves so high off the ground???

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      It’s not just the US, unreasonable focus on height is a thing in a number of countries, even non-western ones.

      Though, where I live, it would be weird to ask this on a date.

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        As a tall person, who has been married to the same noticeably shorter woman for 36 years, height has never been questioned between us. I can’t remember any woman I had ever dated, going back to high school, ever asking me my height. 'Twas pretty obvious I’m a whole lot taller than they were.

        Although, now that I think about it, When I was a teenager I did originally want to marry a woman who was like 6’ or taller. Just my luck, the woman I’ve been married to for 36 years is only 5’ 3" tall.

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          It wouldn’t be noticed by you, it’s noticed by the shorter folks. I’m tall enough to “pass” for tall, but no one says “you’re tall” to me. My short friends have all had to deal with this phenomenon.

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          You’re “normal,” so nobody would mention it. Try it the other way around, marrying a noticeably taller woman. (Do it for science!) The couples I’ve met with this atypical height difference sure do get comments.

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      It is a weird American thing, but I’m not sure where it comes from. My husband and I are the same height, he might be an inch or so taller than me. I love him, and height isn’t something I really care about.

      However, I’ve had some “friends” who decided to voice their opinion on my partner and say stupid shit like “he’d be more handsome if he was taller” or “I could never be with a short guy.”

      I guess it’s a good thing he’s not married to you then isn’t it? I’m not friends with those women anymore for obvious reasons. They were 30 something year old mean girls.

      I don’t have time for that shit.

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        I’m 5’3 and used to date a girl that was 5’10 she got comments like that from some of her friends all the time when we were together. They’d even say shit in front of me and then act like I was an asshole for not wanting to associate with them. I’m not insecure about my height at all but I’m also not going to be disrespected over something I can’t control.

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          That’s just straight up rude. People need to remember what being a decent person means. Sorry you had to deal with that. I hope you find someone who appreciates you and doesn’t tolerate rude ass comments being made about you(if you havent already that is!)

          What a bunch of assholes. Glad you don’t have to deal with that anymore

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        exactly! From all the things I think about when thinking of a partner Hight is not one of them at all. If a women cares about it its a red flag

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      It is not a US thing I can assure you. You get bios from some women’s in dating apps stating “what do you call a man under 6’0”? A friend."

      As if that’s going to stop me from swiping right!

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        You don’t see how actually using feet as the measurement already signifies just how American it is?

        Most people in my country don’t even have an idea on how much 6ft is.

        The average height here is ~180, which translates as 5"11’.

        I have literally never in my life known a person who had 182cm as an arbitrary height limit for guys. Actually, I’ve not seen any type of height limits basically, aside from a few girls having the criteria of “I would prefer to date someone at least as tall as me.”

        Americans are a nation of short kings, lol.

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          Where I live, we only use metric for height, pizza size and dick size lol.

          I have literally never in my life known a person who had 182cm as an arbitrary height limit for guys.

          You are lucky to not be surrounded by shallow people, I suppose.

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            No no, a lot of them are extremely shallow.

            Just not about height.

            Like I’m sure no-one around you considers someone showing their ankle or elbow to be indecent, but you know a lot of people used to. Or I mean I don’t know where you live, you might live in a country where that still applies, but I don’t think it’s likely.

            Back then ankles and elbows were inherently sexy because of the taboo. For some reason height is sexy for Americans, but people just don’t focus as much on it in some cultures I guess

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      American women ads be like:

      "Hay guys, I’m a divorced, unemployed, BBW (obese) woman, looking for a fit. Good looking, wealthy, muscular guy over 6’ to take care of me and my 5 kids. Must be at least 6’ to ride this curvy (obese) gal "