My SO and I discussed that engagement rings shouldn’t be expensive.

What should I look for in good value rings? Lab grown diamonds? Fake diamonds? gold? white gold? silver? platinum?

Also, what kind of cut? Moissante vs Lab grown?

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    avoid diamonds. there are prettier (and more humane) stones. not to mention: more affordable

    instead, choose a stone and metal that reflect your and your intended’s personalities rather than some boring thing billions of others have.

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        IMO moissanite is a better idea, looks nicer, fuck debeers. Check out your partners existing jewellery for ideas, see if they tend to prefer gold colour metal or silver coloured

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        I went with moissanite and it was perfect. Just don’t go too big or it will be obvious that it’s not a diamond, because normal folks can’t afford huge diamonds.

        I went to a local jeweler and they ordered in the moissanite for me, then affixed it to one of their rings. The entire thing was around $350.

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          Just don’t go too big or it will be obvious that it’s not a diamond, because normal folks can’t afford huge diamonds.

          Good point. But as someone who bought a diamond and still regrets it, I hope these younger wiser folks can embrace and normalize avoiding diamonds.

          Anytime I see a wedding ring that’s clearly not a diamond, my respect for that union raises immediately.

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        I got my wife a moissanite and it turned out beautiful.
        She likes big stones so I got her a 2ct oval one which she loved. Didn’t care much for the technicalities - it looks good, suits her style and that’s all that matters.
        And no way you could get a 2ct diamond for 700$.

        A person who won’t appreciate how you choose to express your love isn’t someone you’d want to marry, anyway.

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        Lab grown are produced under conditions that would get you animal cruelty charges if you subjected your pets to them. And they are separated from their siblings very early in the process and sold off to stores all across the country.

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          I’m so confused by this comment. Are you trying to say that putting a live animal under extreme pressure and zapping them would constitute animal cruelty?

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              I’m not disagreeing. I’m confused because I don’t see how it’s relevant to the comment you responded to.

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                    You’re right, though. It doesn’t make sense based on the parent comment. I think I misread it as asking if lab grown are OK values-wise. Instead it was asking if they are a good value.

                    My bad.

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        My wife loves moissanite, we went with etsy and even got her wedding band custom designed in CAD to fit her engagement ring. Manhattan box was the store we used for the band and a UK spot called shinyjungle for engagement ring where she liked a lab grown morganite. She gets a lot of compliments on them. Most cant tell the difference between them and traditional blood diamonds. Cubic zirconia or epoxy based stones are what you dont want.