• MudMan@fedia.io
    1495·
    6 months ago

    Nah, I don’t mind small talk. Small talk is fine. It’s easy, you just smile a bit, and say hi and make a joke about whatever the other guy said.

    It’s the mid-size talk I can’t deal with. The kind of talk where the other person is just giving you clichés of normie chatter about politics you disagree with or car culture or reality shows and you’re supposed to just… keep providing valid responses and appear interested. I don’t see what’s small about that and it’s excruciating.

    • ArcticPrincessEnglish
      172·
      6 months ago

      Nah, that’s great because you can so easily escalate to heavy talk. Disagree with the political opinion. Insist car culture is just pointless fashion fads. Dive into the morality of reality TV.

      Either they disengage and you’re free, or you get to have an actual meaningful debate instead of echoing hollow platitudes.

      • Rinox@feddit.itEnglish
        181·
        6 months ago

        Thing is, I just don’t care about your political opinion or your preferred fashion fad. I’m not going to either agree or disagree with you, I just don’t care about you and now that you keep talking I’m actively disliking you.

        I’m not going to engage in stupid pointless arguments, especially with someone I have to work with again. I’m just going to smile, nod and leave.

        • CH3DD4R_G0B-L1N@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          1·
          6 months ago

          Yup. If you’re not in the circle (dot), I don’t care enough to do anything but exit at first opportunity while, at best, maintaining that same level of indifference. The longer you talk, the less chance of that happening.

      • skulblaka@startrek.websiteEnglish
        3·
        6 months ago

        While I definitely agree with this and encourage it, most often this happens at work. I got shit to do, I don’t have the time to debate politics with a random customer. Sometimes I’d love to, and some rare times I actually get to have a good long conversation with someone like that, but 99% of the time I really want you to just shut up so I can keep it moving. No matter how much I want to tell someone that Game of Thrones was a genuinely good show for 80% of its runtime, or that Joe Biden isn’t the literal devil.

    • grrgyle@slrpnk.netEnglish
      3·
      6 months ago

      I found this got easier as I got more comfortable with my own eccentricities, but it’s still draining after a while. I’ve just had to accept that some conversations will just not go well for me.

      I think it’s one of the reasons a house party can be so draining, but a little dinner date can go down smooth - because the of the depth of the conversation you describe.

  • Diplomjodler@lemmy.worldEnglish
    572·
    6 months ago

    People are always really surprised whenever I give a presentation or something. I can actually be quite eloquent. I just choose not to be, most of the time.

  • johannesvanderwhales@lemmy.worldEnglish
    27·
    6 months ago

    I honestly don’t think there’s any binary introvert/extrovert trait, and that lots of people combine different traits of introversion and extroversion.

      • johannesvanderwhales@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        5 months ago

        I can get behind it as a broad way of classifying personalities, but when people treat it as a whole package deal of different traits it just feels like horoscopes to me.

  • rjthyen@lemm.eeEnglish
    16·
    6 months ago

    By this definition I’d be closer to an introvert, but compared to my wife I’m extrovert as fuck. Would definitely say there is no hard rule.