I need that time before my appointment to pace back and forth worrying that I might miss my appointment
And then get there an hour early to pace
Or wear yourself out pacing and lay down for a nap or distraction and end up 5 minutes late.
I feel so seen right now.
That’s why I try my best to make the earliest possible appointments
8am appointment, but you still can’t make any plans all day in case it runs long.
8am but after you get through the appointment you give yourself permission to goof off the whole day because you already got something done. 😞
Nope, I just wouldn’t be able to sleep the night before.
Early appointment? Better wake up every 3 hours!
Oh, no! I only have 7 hours until I have to get up! I’ll be too tired tomorrow and have an awful day! I really hope I don’t have trouble falling asleep because I’m stressed about that, then wake up every hour in a cold sweat because I’m dreaming I missed the appointment!
Usually for early stuff I just wouldn’t sleep at all.
Then I can’t do anything the night before because I have to get up early
Can’t take the risk of getting in the middle of something, losing track of time, and being late to/missing the appointment.
Yep. I am also that person. I’m worried I’ll forget about the thing I have to do if I do literally anything else.
You don’t set an alarm or anything?
You have ADHD.
Thank you doctor.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it :-D
don’t like it :-D
Kinda sending mixed messages with that overjoyed smiley, then 😁
this is why when I had flexible hours at a previous job I started at 4am. it was also to not get stuck behind a train fpr 45min to 2 hours. Now I can’t wake up that early without feeling dead. I dont know what happened.
It’s a combination of anticipatory and time anxieties mixed with energy conservation.
What kinds of appointments are you guys making that are so stressful?
Literally anything. If I have a specific time to be at a specific place my whole day is ruined.
Please tell me more, tomorrow, at 6pm precisely. ;-)
You’re the worst kind of person and i love you for it.
are these appointments that you chose for yourself that are accomplishing things for you?
Not OP, but It doesn’t matter to me what they are. It can be a call to discuss weekend plans, it can be an errand I have to run, it can even be an agreement with an friend to play a multiplayer game at X time. Something like a dentist appointment is the worst though.
I’m neurodivergent and not sure how much that matters to the phenomenon
I think it’s general anxiety. I get butterflies in my stomach when I do anything off my routine. Even if it’s just hanging with friends. What do I wear, how do I get there, will I know people, should I bring something?
For me, stressfulness of the appointment has nothing to do with it. It’s just…a feeling that I have to wait for the appointment. Hard to explain.
It’s not about the appointment itself, but the fact that it’s set at all. Probably an ADHD thing, though I haven’t been formally diagnosed.
It’s also an autism thing, though there is some considerable overlap there so you could be forgiven for not knowing.
Source: it’s me, I’m the autist
Yeah, I keep seeing autism and ADHD memes, and keep thinking “I do that all the time”. Should probably talk to someone about it who can give a proper diagnosis.
I very much don’t have ADHD, but I also struggle with the “I have an appointment later, so all I can do today is wait for the appointment” thing.
In the US some medical providers charge the cost of the visit without insurance if you’re late or don’t show, so a $20-30 appointment can potentially turn into one that costs hundreds. That alone makes me anxious about appointments, because I don’t know off the top of my head if any of my providers do that because I’m neurotically on time, lol.
you can ask them what their no show/cancellation fee/policy is, rather than fantasize about the potential wrath.
I could, or I could just be on time.
What is?
I don’t have an appointment, and I still can’t do anything all day
Or the night before, for that matter.
I’ve been getting better at this! I have a pretty good idea of how quick certain outings to eateries, groceries, or other basics can be. I estimate only a small half hour from the appointment in question, and leave that as a buffer. It helps that my body has been waking me up early in the morning, somewhat against my wishes. It’s weird for a gamer like myself to realize how many hours are actually in the morning.
So do something. Nobody can do it for you
She can’t, she has an appointment at 4.
