• Flying Squid@lemmy.worldOP
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        7 months ago

        Sorry I got mad, I’m just so angry that people believe that lie because it’s turned into so much hate against trans people.

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          Thanks for the apology. I really hate the LGBT hate. I don’t understand what’s wrong with letting people live their own lives the way they want, if they aren’t physically affecting others. Shame my original post got downvoted so much. I didn’t think it was offensive.

          Edit: also thank you for correcting my misconception over the law! I’ll make sure to correct people going forward.

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      Wow this sounds really reasonable, wtf kinda drugs is Peterson on if he thinks it restricts free speech…

      TLDR: bill C-16 adds gender identity and expression to the list of discrimination protections, a list which already includes gender, ethnicity, religion and sexual orientation. So yeah right now you can’t fire someone for being black, under C-16 this will also apply to trans people. Ontario already has this in their provincial laws, so Peterson is already living under such a “regime”.

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        Wow this sounds really reasonable, wtf kinda drugs is Peterson on if he thinks it restricts free speech…

        If I recall, Peterson’s entire idea on that was that it would result in misgendering being considered hate speech, though it’s been a while so I might be misremembering.

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      7 months ago

      No one is being forced

      I think you misunderstood his hyperbole as a literal thing

      Of course people aren’t putting a gun to your head. But there are often consequences for not doing it.

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          You sound pretty ignorant. Intentionally misgendering someone at work would get you canned pretty fast at most corporate jobs.

          There’s no reason to reason not to just refer to people their gender identity but you are either lying or very unaware of corporate culture.

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            7 months ago

            You mean harassing someone at work will get you fired. That’s true no matter what type of harassment it is. That has nothing to do with pronouns. You could get fired for repeatedly calling someone at work a panda.

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          I have personally seen many instances of people getting banned or suspended from communities for either misgendering people (intentionally or not), or refusing to use their preferred pronouns.

          But due to a real concern of retaliation or getting banned here myself, I will not be providing specific examples.

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            Sorry… that’s what you’re talking about? People being banned on internet forums? Big fucking deal.

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              7 months ago

              There are also real world instances of violence over the same things if you do a quick web search.

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                Sorry, it’s not my job to prove your claims. If there are real world instances of violence, I’m sure you can provide them and show they were definitely unprovoked.

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      lots of people are being harassed and intimidated into it though. lots of people take an absolutist stance on pronouns, and if you misgender someone or don’t ask them what their pronoun is, you are considered a ‘bad person’.

      labeling and harassing people into social conformity is being forced to do something.

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        What people? I have never seen anyone get angry about being accidentally misgendered.

        No one is being “harassed” or “intimidated” into calling people what they want to be called. You’re just an asshole if you don’t do it because you’re not giving them a very basic amount of respect: the acknowledgement of the right to be who they are.

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          On the contrary in fact, I’ve seen people be very forgiving if you accidentally screw up but genuinely mean well. I accidentally misgendered a friend of mine once, and when I realized it I immediately started profusely apologizing. They appreciated it but said it was all good.

          At the end of the day, everything can be distilled down to one maxim – be genuinely kind to people, and 99% of people will respond in kind and forgive mistakes.

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            Sure, anyone can make a mistake. Trans people know that just as well as cis people. If you just say sorry and correct yourself, most trans people would probably be fine with it. It’s the people who do it on purpose that are the problem.

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          I have, many times. Don’t know where you live… oftentimes it’s not ever the trans person getting mad… it’s a straight cis person with a hero complex goes around as a self appointed pronoun police officer and calls you names if you even ask them wtf the deal is.

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            If someone was a jerk to you, then that person is a jerk.

            If everyone is a jerk to you, then you’re probably the jerk.

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                Well let’s consider the evidence we have here:

                On the one hand we have people who have said “trans people are usually very polite about correcting you if you misgender them.” (Which has also been my experience as well)

                On the other hand we have you saying “trans people are always rude jerks!”

                The only difference between the two scenarios is… You. Pair that with how you have been talking about trans people in all of your posts and I have to conclude that you are the problem here, and there must be something you are doing that is making trans people and trans allies aggressive towards you.

                I can only wonder at what that could possibly be…