Yesterday I was telling a transfem acquaintance about a bike camping trip I’m taking soon with a cis m buddy and she was mortified. She was convinced that he would assault me the first chance he got. “How will you pee without risking him attacking you?!” I explained that my buddy knows I’m a transguy and he’s good people, but she was convinced that this is a horrible idea and that I’m risking my life by taking this trip. It was strange.
That’s honestly sad she would think that, even after he was vouched for.
I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.
This person, I kid you not, said “Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation’s state would have a name like cowboycrustation’s name!”
I was like…wtf. My name irl isn’t one of those names like fern or star that aren’t common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men’s name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.
I might be able to understand/relate to that better if you share what the name is, but of course, no pressure, as it’s personal information.
had a trans girl get offended when i said to her that i preferred spending time around her and other trans people, apparently she didnt consider herself trans or like to be refered to as a trans woman. idk, it felt kind of alienating like she was passing now and so didnt want to be associated with other trans people anymore like i was beneath her or something.
What internalized transphobia does to a gal
(sorry if I shouldn’t be replying on this post just let me know if so - straight cis man)
My trans sister has expressed similar feelings. I’ve tried encouraging her to find some people she could befriend in the community while she’s on her transition journey. She says she doesn’t want to be part of the community, and once she’s fully passing in her eyes (I personally think she very much is already, and keep telling her that) that she wants to just live as a woman with nobody else ever knowing she’s trans. It’s obviously her choice, but I can’t help but constantly wish I could do more for her than just be supportive and love her for who she is.
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That is by far the most braindead take I’ve heard. It’s on par with the TERF argument that “trans women are just doing woman blackface”
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Yeah, sometimes people just don’t want to listen to reason. As frustrating as it is, there’s not much one can change about it. What a weird ass take on their part. How the hell do you even come to that conclusion.
How the hell do you even come to that conclusion.
Insecurity. I’ll admit that seeing people in drag can still make me feel uneasy and insecure in myself. It reminds me of my physical flaws. Since I was a little kid, I felt that “guy in drag” is what I’d look like if I tried to be at all feminine, and seeing a guy in drag has been a reminder of that feeling.
So yeah, insecurity caused by internalized homophobia and transphobia can lead to weird rationalizations for feelings of dread.
Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with drag. This is a personal issue that needs to be resolved internally.
genuinely curious but what did RuPaul do? Ive never paid attention to drag cuz the culture surrounding it has always seemed mostly like really obnoxious straight ally types lol.
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