• Triasha-she/her@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    1 year ago

    I met my wife on OK cupid.

    I have been carfished, frustrated with ghosting, or just no responses, but ultimately, I can’t complain. Thanks OKcupid.

  • Eleanor@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    I do, I’ve been using HER and it’s been going okay overall.

    It’s specifically designed for lesbian and non-binary dating which makes a big difference imo. It’s also openly trans-positive and anti-terf which is pretty essential for me as a trans woman.

    As for my personal experience, I’ve had a few good conversations and one short relationship so far.

    Still, people often ghost for no apparent reason just like any other dating app. It’s hard not to feel inadequate after a while :(

    • Triasha-she/her@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      1 year ago

      It is hard. Sometimes you can remind yourself that it doesn’t reflect on you as a person, it’s them.

      Other times you have to take a break and let your ego recover.

    • VioletteRei@lemmy.worldOPM
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      1 year ago

      Hey, it’s not your fault if people ghost you. Dating apps are hard, I think the best is to do dating apps with also irl meeting, like in cafe or things like that. You maximise your chance this way :)

      • mewpichu@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        1 year ago

        My GF and I were aligned in that we were both not interested in getting to know someone too much virtually without being willing to meet in person. I think it really helps to set expectations early on, and either they share those expectations or they don’t.

  • mewpichu@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    1 year ago

    I wildly met my GF of 2 years on Tinder and we ask each other every day wtf were you doing on Tinder

      • mewpichu@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        1 year ago

        Oh absolutely! We just find it hysterical because of the reputation it has. In all honesty, if two people are on the same platform, there’s nothing to stop two people from meeting. There’s just a lot more lower quality accounts to wade through.