Here’s my story.
Sometime in April a guy who was a friend of a friend started touching me, yes I know I should have not let this happen but I found him kinda hot so I let him touch me. Started questioning when I got home. I then developed a slight crush on him but got over it after a few weeks.
I should have handled the situation differently but it caused me to learn about myself.
I (M) grew up believing I was gay. I grew up in a very conservative catholic home, so i didn’t call it gay, I wasn’t out, I didn’t talk to anyone about it or anything, but deep down I knew I was only attracted to men. I dated a few guys and while the sex was everything I need it to be, I always found the relationship was never fulfilling for me and I was never really happy.
I dated a few more people and did a lot of introspection and eventually I had the realization that I probably wasn’t completely gay. All my crushes in school were of other girls; I never had crushes on the boys in my school. (I wanted to fuck them sure, but I never dreamt about dating them). And when I think about my long term future, I envision a wife and children.
So, I started dating this girl I met online and we hit it off pretty well. We fell in love and now we’re happily married since a long time now. I’m happy in ways I didn’t think I could be, and I wouldn’t change anything.
I for sure miss dick, but I’m in a truly good place now and wouldn’t change anything. I’m glad I had the experiences I did. It still feels a little weird calling myself Bi sometimes, but I know it to be true.
Sorry if this is a little incoherent; I wrote this while out running tasks 😅
This is always a fun convo!
I think it was gradual, and I knew way before I knew to label it as bi/pan (I like the bi colors more 😅). Boys even as early in elementary school would sometimes talk about how pretty or hot their teachers were, and I didn’t realize they usually reserved such comments for the female teachers. So I started think it about any I found attractive, men included.
Past that, closer to teen years, I’d have fantasies of being caught masturbating, but the subject of those dreams also weren’t restricted to just female figures in my life. Again, I didn’t have a label for it, but it never felt weird or bad.
Later on in mid-high school, I was driving my friend home from a party and he asked me if I’d ever had a girl suck me off. I hadn’t, and answered accordingly. He asked if I wanted to know how it felt and started massaging himself over his shorts. Horny vibes took over and I agreed and that was that. I think I tried to deny it a little, but I was always in the LGBTQ+ crowd in HS anyhow and it helped me accept it a lot quicker. The guy turned out to be gay, and I think people are fucking hot, regardless of gender presentation or biological equipment.
Damn you have seen a lot. Its irrelevant but i really don’t understand how guys can be straight. Today 2 guys told me that if I lost some weight “I could pull all the removed” my first tought was what is I wanted to pull guys too. Didn’t say anything as I’m closeted sadly.
I have a lot of stories to tell if you want to hear more let me know
Yeah that’s always hard to deal with, the compliments get me flustered sometimes too. I can’t really say much cause I’m in a relationship lmao. Also, I’m sure you could pull all the guys at your current weight too!
As someone who is ridiculously bi/pan, I can’t understand how anyone can be attracted to just one gender. There are so many hot people in this world lmao
I really like being bi but also since I found out everything has been crashing down. I don’t want to burden you but I’ve been having some relationship problems.
Its just I’m really worried about my bf. It’sbeeen nearly 2 weeks since he last texted me. I’m worried about his safety. I’m scared he might have been put in an asylum or that he hurt himself. He’s the only person I care about. I don’t know what to do. He is the only good thing that has happened to me recently.
The last 3 texts he sent were these:
“I almost got robbed or kidnapped not sure sorry.”
“I don’t know I don’t feel too well”
“I don’t want to do this anymore.”
I’m scared I’m lost only reason I’m still alive is because I don’t want to disappoint him.
17 year old me in a party , found out I could kiss a boy and like it. Initially I was full of lesbian panic but no turns out bi panic all along. It was funny realization because I was so convinced I only liked girls , but nah if there is a boy i like i like kisisng them too.
Ngl I found out when I first heard the term bi from Mae Borowski in Night In The Woods, I looked it up after and that’s how I not only figured out I was bi but a part of the lgbt community in general!
I think it was gradual for me. /r/bisexual on Reddit helped me a lot actually. I’m a male (genderqueer technically) and I am like 90% attracted to women (or people presenting as women), but there were always guys that made me stop and go “oh dear is it hot in here” if you know what I mean. However I never felt like I “qualified” for calling myself bisexual because I have never had sex with a guy or I didn’t like guys “enough”. The folks at /r/bisexual helped me realize “Nope, still bi, have fun!”. Hot people are hot, that’s all that matters.
(On the note of bi/pan, I feel like bi encompasses everything that pan does. HOWEVER bi colors > pan colors :) )
It’s been a journey of confused feelings and denial most of my life leading to, after dating a bisexual woman and pulling a lot of the bullshit the community complains about, thinking about myself more and trying to discover myself. It was a slow build-up, starting with me saying that I was, “80% straight.” Eventually, I accepted that my real first celebrity crush had been on Anthony Perkins. While I still am more attracted to women more often, it’s nice to accept my attraction not to everyone but to anyone.
