if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

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    7 months ago

    It becomes a lot more obvious when we’re talking about “a dude” or “a guy” because those are absolutely gendered terms. Pluralizing a gendered term probably doesn’t make it gender neutral.

    Just say folks or yinz or something.