anon finds out they are autistic
Or it is time to have that ADHD diagnosed.
I seriously hope you’re joking around.
Why? Dude is probably actually autistic.
Do you just assume autistic cause people are weird?
Not every autistic person is bad at social. And as an actual autistic person who wouldn’t dream of acting like that, I take offense to people dubbing everything they find odd or socially unacceptable as autism.
“Regular difficulties in social interaction or communication” is litterally a symptom for autism, my dude.
But but … What about mah outrage?
Yes, I’m well aware of that. I went through the whole diagnosis process.
But, it’s not always a symptom. You don’t have to tick every box in the symptom list. Some autistic people have that symptom, some don’t. None autistic people can have social issues too, it gets kinda tiring seeing every social issue being labelled as autism.
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Oh, okay then. Sorry for getting defensive, I just see this kind of thing a lot. And I know that people are quick to label social difficulties as autism, so it gets kinda of tiring that people generally label everything out of the ordinary as being autism.
Question, if you don’t mind.
Does not being able to interpret others emotions make you anxious or avoid talking to people?
I’m oddly hypersensitive to others emotions, which can be pretty tiring in itself actually. So I’m curious how it affects someone who isn’t.deleted by creator
It’s probably because you’re autistic that you only think of this as odd and not for the specific case being presented.
I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn’t think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn’t a socially ‘acceptable’ response.
Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it’s just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.
Yeah sure, but those patterns are super clear and obvious to someone who’s not autistic. You probably do just a lot of non autistic stuff being labeled that way by dumb people hooked on the new buzzword though.
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Yup. My coworker’s wife lost a baby after announcing it to me and other management (he was excited), and it was well within the first trimester. I felt really bad for him, and the best I could do is not bring it up and just focus on work.
It’s hard to place yourself into someone else’s position, so if in doubt, it’s usually best to stay quiet.
I cooked at a restaurant with a guy who had something similar happen a couple years before I started there. His nickname was angry johny because he was so irritable. Whenever tears in heaven by Clapton came on he would would yell at the manager to skip the song and dissappear into the walk in. He ended up quitting for other reasons but a year or two later I ran into him at a bar and he and the same lady had a healthy birth and all his anger melted away and he turned into a really rad dood. He even apologized to me about his behavior in said kitchen.
Can’t help but think this why we use to have fertility rituals.
Some genes mixes are less compatible than others
Marry the one you can easily procreate with.
I know we’re not supposed to say it but consider where we’re posting here, a series a miscarriages actually is your fault, technically your genes faults but you are your genetic code.
Think how much hatred this fuck put out there because he chose a nearly incompatible mat.
Christ this might be one of the worst things I have read on Lemmy.
I am honored.
I would like to thank all of the unviable embryos.
We could not have had this moment together without them.
Honestly I don’t even know where to begin with this comment. Like, blaming people for their miscarriage is a taboo and for good reason. It doesn’t matter how right you might be, it is still wrong on so many levels.
Yep. But it’s fun to stop and realize how fucking hilariously bizarre we are as a species; pretending we’re highly evolved logical beings.
We each make our existences more miserable out of politeness. A concept that has shifted and lurched over humanity’s existence.
Yes, hilarious to think that we don’t blame parents of a miscarriage for their miscarriage? The fuck is wrong with you mate? I really hope you never have to go through that shit, because it’s fucking miserable and crushing…and you want to laugh about how “hilariously bizarre” it is to help people cope and deal with the pain of loss.
This is like some red-pilled, trolling 14 year old shit, and like any other teenage ignorant rationality, fucking incorrect and misleading.
Miscarriages can happen for so many reasons, in fact, it’s so common that around 1/5 pregnancies end in a miscarriage. It’s estimated that only around half are due to genetic abnormalities during development, the other half is due to structural issues in the uterus, nutrient and chemical imbalances, and other external factors outside of the uterus that can cause it. Hell, it’s not even been proven if the causes of miscarriages are hereditary or not, and you think your so “enlightened” as to why they happen that your willing to just casually blame the parents, like your some sperged abortion guru.
Knock if off with dumb, ignorant shit like this. It’s not to late for you to start being a better person.
Yes. Exactly that sort of emotional reaction is so fascinating. And I’m certainly not pretending I wouldn’t feel the same way about this or any other thing.
But try remove yourself from the humanity of it, if you can. Imagine looking at us as a distant observer, a few galaxy over.
Our lives are so silly and random and meaningless and we take much of it all so seriously.
How close were any of us to being naturally aborted?
Life is suffering only if you allow it to be. I choose to enjoy the ride. Sorry, not sorry that my life philosophy offends you. There is a beauty to having no purpose, purpose a limitation.
To pull from Rick and Morty like any edgelord should, “What is my purpose” – I’d rather it be “none, you fucking don’t matter,” than “you make baby” or “you pass the butter”
Where is your evidence that any of this is true? You are making bold claims about human genetics, though I am willing to accept them if you have sufficient evidence.
From what I understand miscarriages are common regardless as human reproduction is a very finicky process where many embryos fail to even implant. These don’t even get classed as conventional miscarriages or often even noticed as embryos are so small at this stage.
What I do find kind of funny is that people aren’t prepared for miscarriages when they are so very common of an occurrence. Especially if you want multiple kids it should be expected that you will miscarry at least once. Previous generations wouldn’t be this hung up on it as early infant death was common, nevermind miscarriage, and they understood that the process was fickle at best.
I think it’s all funny. I think it’s especially funny that people are so offended at me for noticing the funny surrounding this topic.
It’s emotional topic for people who have miscarriages and I am labeled as bad for having the wrong emotion. That alone is hilarious.
Your rose color glasses on how people of the past approach this is silly. Infanticide was widely practiced prior to modern history. Some estimates put it at 50% for distant eras. The preciousness of children is a modern invention.
For much of humanity’s existence children were a burden and pregnancy wasn’t a choice. Now that it is a choice, there is this added guilt that society chooses to wash away with comforting lies.
Your rose color glasses on how people of the past approach this is silly. Infanticide was widely practiced prior to modern history. Some estimates put it at 50% for distant eras. The preciousness of children is a modern invention.
So guessing they would care about a miscarriage, then? No?
I don’t get why your downvoting me, I agree with you that people shouldn’t be as upset over marriages.
What I disagree on is that miscarriages ever had anything to do with genetic compatibility. You’re going to have to present scientific evidence if you want to make that claim. It sounds like you just made it up to be honest.
Edit: wouldn’t care, not would care.
That’s the part you think I made up?
I’ll admit I can’t source that one, most of the studies are on cousin fucking but it would reason the most genetically diverse a couple is the less common abnormalities.
And if people were killing their viable births why would they fret over the non-viable ones?
I am claiming that the reason people get upset about them now is because the process is highly planned and they are highly invested in the outcome.
No topic is completely off limits to jokes, but some combinations of joke and audience sure as hell are.
I agree about timing, but moreso that that joke is dated AF, who makes DMV jokes anymore? If you’re gonna be edgy make a relatable joke, jeez.
Real life shock to learn the empathy that online interactions lack.
More likely a coping mechanism to deal with real life shock.
*unecessery emotions that suck anyways\s
Found anon
Caring about family members?
You mean the only thing that allowed you to survive into adulthood?
How sad must it be to be so withdrawn from empathy that you can’t even realize how dependent you are on it.
Women, “I miscarried last week, my husband and I have been trying for years and we really thought this was it.”
Men, “You think that’s bad? Have you been to the DMV?”.
Reminds me of that old joke about how guys will get the flu and be like “this is the worst experience anyone has ever had happen to them OMG”
Meanwhile women and people AFAB literally have periods and may even give birth…
Poor anon. Should’ve said that research found miscarriages to be more common than previously believed and that this specific one likely wasn’t the first and definitely not the last.
It’s these little details that make all the difference…“I know this is awful, but it’ll probably happen again.”
I don’t know, chief. Probably not the best approach.
Comment was sarcastic and dunking on op for being socially stunted.
Look on the bright side, now you and hubby can have your DNA tested and find out how incompatible you are and that you have about a 25% chance of producing a healthy offspring. Yay, knowledge!
Well thynk you, now everybody knows I’m not working on the task at hand.
Depending on the woman, this will either help, or shatter them.
The actual odds are around 50% self abort. Mostly within the first month. 10-20% happen between 1 and 3 months. Critically, almost none of the risk is down to the mother. It just happens.
I couldn’t get the fear out of my wife’s mind on this. All I could do was quantify it, and lay the groundwork that it wasn’t her fault if the pregnancy failed.
When I had a colleague who had 3 heartbreaks, and she was expecting her 4th we treated her with proper kid gloves, no carrying, no stress. It felt like a team effort.
I hope she had a happy, healthy baby and that she and the baby are doing well. I’m not normally a fan of euphemisms, but calling a miscarriage a heartbreak is fitting.
She did, she has a caring, successful husband and is glowing in life now.
That’s very good to hear.
It’s best to just drop the factoids and offer emotional support in situations like this.
Anon tries to be Jerry Seinfeld
DMV?
Department of motor vehicles.
Kraftfahrzeug-Zulassungsbehörde
Sehr edel Zuhausi.
Department of motor vehicles.
Notoriously a long line you have to stand in to get your drivers license.
This is what happens when your social adolescence happens in an unmoderated forum where the edgiest edgelad wins attention.
Their fam is partying it up in the dmv line
Lol anon’s a dumbass. I work in healthcare and miscarriages are pretty common and for most people it’s pretty easy to get pregnant again, by the story she wasn’t admitted to the hospital so the pregnancy couldn’t be very far. So it’s not that big of a deal. That said, even if it isn’t a big deal if you see someone crying you don’t crack jokes lol. Have some tact and empathy. All that if the story was real, which it isn’t.
The problem was the joke sucked. He should have reported her for murder to the government of Alabama, as a prank.
Too many people today in situations like Anon’s. Society needs to change.
Mfw 28 and living with parents
Famous christian compassion.
Flax_vert, our resident Christian
I mean, the person is directly inviting others to talk about Christianity in their profile. I just kindly take up on the invitation.
Oh, not visible for me on mobile
This user enjoys talking about Religion and Christianity (if you cannot tell)
From their profile.
No I believe you, I just meant I couldn’t see those profile descriptions on mobile
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Where I live, living with your parent’s is cheaper and better economically even your whole life, after getting married, having kids, …
I have cousins where 4 generations of familly live together in the same house with no issues.
4 generations of familly live together in the same house with no issues.
with no issues
Hmmm
I’m glad I live in a country where family value is strong and still living parents is less taboo, because the rent is too damn high. Although people who came from individualistic countries are judging. I remember ten years ago I have a friend from France who is weirded out we don’t move out even at twenty. But even if we want to, we have a housing crisis that persists to this day?
I think when surveyed most wanted to move out but couldn’t. Though “we have stronger family values” sure is a nicer way to look at it.
Oh yeah definitely most would move out. Many of us who can afford to move out of our hometown and explore. Some don’t return but many who do settle down, and live close to our parents’ home from just down the road.
People are different, happy to hear that you have good relationship with your parents - that’s not the case for everyone. Also there people who value their privacy and personal freedom more than the convenience of living in a big family.
Tell that to my whole country.
If you are my neighbor, there are definitely issues. That house isn’t designed for 17 people. I have no idea where y’all sleep.
As long as you aren’t being a NEET. but this is a 4chan user so it’s kind of implied
From this story we can understand that this dude has obvious development problems
Well, they’re on 4chan…
That’s rookie numbers where i live
