• Reygle@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Ironic. I’m in to 30-something women and even 40-something women, but the catch is they have to not be mentally ill

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      11 months ago

      That goes for any relationship. Men and women. It is harder the older as so many more are paired, and the single ones have a higher likelihood of having… reasons.

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        11 months ago

        Or just baggage, which isn’t particularly healthy for your mental state. When looking at my circle of friends, at the latest when your ~35 you will have lived through cheating or other types of betrayal. People often are just assholes to each other and hurt people hurt people.

        I see this as an additional reason though, to not date someone who is still very young.

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      11 months ago

      Yeah, if I ever conquer this damn divorce and my general anxiety, I’m just gonna meet people and hopefully find someone with few enough red flags that I can feel comfortable around them

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      11 months ago

      but the catch is they have to not be mentally ill

      I feel like there has to be a more…tactful? Less judgmental? way of stating this