Hi!

I’m dating an amazing guy. He’s very sweet and caring. He’s kind of a quiet guy.

We started dating after a friend of his brought me a note he wanted to give me (but then threw away because he was indecisive) that said how much he loved me.

I took it and invited him over to my place. At first he was afraid to touch me and I took the initiative. Lately, he has become more active in this respect and is no longer afraid to just come up and hug me.

Everything would be very good, but I can’t understand one thing. Why does he always shake when we hug? I’ve asked him about it, but he keeps silent or blushes or says “I’m sorry”. I’m very worried about him and his health. Take him to doctor?

We’ve been together for 3 months. 2nd year of university. Same age.

  • yenahmik@lemmy.worldEnglish
    67·
    11 months ago

    I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It sounds like he is very shy and inexperienced. It’s probably just excitement/nerves. You can ask if he likes hugging or if he’d prefer something else. If he says he likes it, I wouldn’t bring it up anymore.

  • tjsauce@lemmy.worldEnglish
    42·
    11 months ago

    It sounds like he’s nervous when it comes to touch, or that it’s slightly overwhelming. If he’s blushing, that’s a good sign he’s enjoying it.

  • LanternEverywhere@kbin.social
    201·
    11 months ago

    You two sound very young, like middle school or early high school. If that’s the case then don’t worry about it, it’s probably just excitement or nervousness. Just enjoy being young and in young love.

  • Constant Pain@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    11 months ago

    The thrill of being with someone you are interested in. I had this all the time when I was young. It’s anxiety and nervousness. It will probably fade with time.

    Anyway, check his blood sugar levels, maybe he’s hypoglycemic and needs to eat something, hehehe.

  • SuperSpruce@lemmy.zipEnglish
    3·
    11 months ago

    This guy’s behavior seems quite like myself.

    He’s probably been rejected a hundred times and the notion that “touching is just coming on too strong” has been drilled into his brain again and again. He’s not used to having a girlfriend actually loving him.

    • NovaPrimeEnglish
      253·
      11 months ago

      women can get experience anytime they want but not so with men…

      What in the incel talking point hell are you on mate? Can we not generalize an entire gender and paint their sexuality and sexual proclivities with such a broad brush?

      • SuperSpruce@lemmy.zipEnglish
        14·
        11 months ago

        It’s certainly not true among all people, but there is a sizable group of guys who Just. Can’t. Get. A. Girlfriend. No. Matter. What. There are certainly some girls in this boat, but because most guys are really horny, this group is smaller as announcing you want intimacy as a girl is nearly guaranteed to get you messages from horny guys.