Kinda cringe. I love “dude” and say it a lot because of brainworms, but I am pretty careful with referring to people by it. It has both a potentially unpleasant sound AND is gendered.
yeah, there’s one transfem friend i have who calls me dude and i call her dude and that’s just like a thing we do, but if someone else does it it really raises my hackles even if i don’t always tell them
I am terrible with names to begin with so I just call everyone “dude”, regardless of gender. That includes my wife, father, etc.
ok i’m not going to remove this but i need you to understand why people in the transgender comm might not be pleased with this attitude
Even if you’re not using it as a gendered term, it is a gendered term, and it can make people who don’t identify that way feel bad.
It doesn’t seem worthwhile to use “dude” for everyone with that in mind.
Agreed. I imagine it can be dysphoria inducing for trans women, even if it is more gender neutral in your area.
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You’ve got like ten people answering you kindly and you decided to just double down, eh ?
See you back when you’ve done some thinking
i don’t want to be too defensive of them but they did do that before most of the responses came in if you look at the timestamps
True enough, I didn’t notice that.
Kinda cringe. I love “dude” and say it a lot because of brainworms, but I am pretty careful with referring to people by it. It has both a potentially unpleasant sound AND is gendered.
yeah, there’s one transfem friend i have who calls me dude and i call her dude and that’s just like a thing we do, but if someone else does it it really raises my hackles even if i don’t always tell them
Getting called “dude” by a random and just looking at them real shitty-like instead of saying anything.
I would rip you a new asshole if you did this to me in person.
No thank you
Sounds reasonable, dude
Thanks dude
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