• miss_brainfart
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    8 months ago

    Obviously depends on the person, but I would love that question. Straight to the point, trying to understand where I’m at. I can and will appreciate that.

    Maybe that’s the neurospicy part of me. I can absolutely see why someone wouldn’t like that.

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      8 months ago

      Exactly: I’m more than happy to either give you emotional support or brainstorm a solution.
      Just tell me which one, because the two things don’t overlap at all.

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      8 months ago

      Yeah same. It is weird because I’m never quite sure what mode my wife is in. And she never knows what mode I’m in.

      Usually I’m the one in feelings mode because I usually solve the problem myself so if the problem is still there I tried and failed and am now emotional.

      I will have to try this.

    • jabrd [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      8 months ago

      Yea this is good partner behavior as I’ve been taught. Jumping straight to problem solving can be dismissive. It’s talking past where your partner is at rather than meeting them where they are

      Actually thinking about this for a second I’m an idiot. What’s the solution stage for “my burrito exploded?” Pick it up ho?