Someone in my family was married, has kids and went on his entire life to live as hetero, only to meet a guy at age 45 or something and fall in love with him. He said he never really thought about other men and still doesn’t, but this guy is the shit for him apparently. It’s not like he is hiding being in a gay relationship either, and everyone supports him, so no reason to lie.

So the spectrum bit might be true for a lot for people.