• spectre [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      Its polite to avoid using gendered language toward people you don’t know, especially toward someone who has their preferred pronouns/gender clearly visible. Our instance also has a large representation of trans people who are often further made uncomfortable by gendered language, especially when it does not align with their identified gender.

      • Che Banana
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        1 year ago

        Well i taught my children growing up it wasn’t the language, it was the intention. They used to say “ahhh crap you” for example, because “crap” was "acceptable ".
        However, the intention was to say “fuck you” and therefore not cool and not allowed. I’m saying this because the intention wasn’t there to offend, it’s just an old saying by an old dude. There are so many instances (settings for me is “All, New” so i see a huge variety of interesting things.) I hadn’t even noticed there was flair. so yeah…gotcha. thanks.