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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • A relationship should definitely be built on a foundation of companionship, healthy emotional bonding, and love. Going out to eat, movies, concerts, trips, and whatever else is nice and healthy but that definitely shouldn’t be the conerstone of any relationship.

    That said, if someone isn’t able to pay even half of their rent, they probably shouldn’t be trying to relationship. They should be focusing on trying to get to place of financial independence so that they can be at the very minimum self sustaning in the relationship. A good potential partner would probably be more impressed with low debt and stability over one’s ability to rack up debt and impulsiveness.

    As far as the herd goes… everyone is poor these days. The apps, like most social media are all smoke and mirrors. So don’t compare yourself to what you see online, it’ll drive you crazy! And understand that when you’re going on a date everyone is putting their best foot forward (hopefully).


  • Ya, it took me a few years after he died before I realized I could somewhat affect my dreams. After rereading what I wrote, I’m kinda wondering if me telling him he was dead was actually more for me, in accepting that he was actually dead.

    When it comes to lucid dreaming, I am by no means an expert. In my own dreams I can mostly just realize that I’m dreaming, which comes in handy when it comes to bailing out of nightmares, or extending dreams that I’m enjoying. I’ve definitely lost a step with age, I feel like I used to have more control.


  • When I was pretty young my dad taught me how to recognize when I was dreaming and how to use that knowledge to affect my dreams. I didn’t really care at the time, he was way into it though.

    After he died, it was really hard for me when he visited, until I remembered what he’d taught me. When I finally told him he was dead during one of his visits he just said “I know” and it completely changed the dynamic of his visits. That was many years ago, I’m almost as old as he was when he passed. Now, when he visits we just hang out and enjoy each others company. I get to tell him about his grandchildren he never got meet and he gives me advice or at least listens to my struggles. I don’t know if the dream version of him is real or not (I choose to believe it is), but it doesn’t matter. Dad dreams went from being my worst dreams to my absolutely best dreams.

    I’m sorry if you lost someone, and I’m sorry if it hurts. Please know that some day you may come to cherish seeing then in your dreams.