So you took the literal scenario (woman in wheelchair gets insulting comment asking if her disability affects her sexually) and inverted it so that the insultor is disadvantaged against a hypothetical celebrity who causes them social harm. Why? Autism isn’t a fucking pallisade and it shouldn’t be used to counter attack legitimate points. You’re the one doing damage to perceptions of autistic people. Please stop.
she viewed all of her peers as children since she felt she had more lived experience which is fine
That’s not fine. Her lived experience doesn’t seem to be translating to maturity at a rate worth bragging about whether the claim is true or not. The foundation of any healthy relationship is respect. I think that whether you want to confront anyone about these events or not, you would benefit from seeking out mutually respectful relationships.
Consider whether her actions can really be caused by a fault of yours if she belittles almost everyone in the same way.