• Flying Squid@lemmy.worldM
    363·
    11 months ago

    What is a “sigma male?”

    And why would you be ridiculed and scorned for opening up emotionally?

    None of this meme makes sense to me.

    • Rosco@sh.itjust.works
      18·
      11 months ago

      There’s plenty of people that are relunctant to open up to others because they are scared of their reaction. I am one of them.

    • iiGxC@slrpnk.net
      14·
      11 months ago

      And why would you be ridiculed and scorned for opening up emotionally?

      because people are mean and repeat the mean things that have been done to them, and difficult emotions make people uncomfortable and one way to avoid them is punishing people who do open up

        • iiGxC@slrpnk.net
          2·
          11 months ago

          not literally punished, but socially responded to negatively. I’ve been lucky that I haven’t experienced it much (and even then, I still struggle to open up), but it’s a very real thing. For men, one umbrella term that includes this concept is “toxic masculinity”

          • Flying Squid@lemmy.worldM
            2·
            11 months ago

            Yeah, I guess all I can say is I’ve been lucky too. I’ve just never noticed any serious repercussions for showing my emotions. All I can think is that, since I was a pretty unpopular kid growing up, I gave so little of a shit about what the sort of people who would think negatively of me opening up emotionally would think about me that I just didn’t notice it even though it was happening. It would have just been one more dickhead move to ignore.

    • PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca
      9·
      11 months ago

      My parents and school teachers and peers made it very clear to me that if you show emotion such as sadness, jealousy, frustration, fear, or anxiety, you were not living up to being a male and thus are weak and deserving of punishment, physical violence, and social isolation and ridicule.

    • starman2112@lemmy.world
      5·
      11 months ago

      why would you be ridiculed and scorned for opening up emotionally?

      Not to sound like a blue-haired liberal, but at least in my neck of the woods, toxic masculinity is to blame. Like, one of my favorite internet folk got bullied off the internet recently for saying he likes girls a little too enthusiastically. Some dudes will absolutely tear you apart if you are a man that exhibits anything other than stoic passivity.

      • Flying Squid@lemmy.worldM
        5·
        11 months ago

        Like, one of my favorite internet folk got bullied off the internet recently for saying he likes girls a little too enthusiastically.

        I honestly can’t even wrap my head around that. He was bullied off the internet for being heterosexual?

        • gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          4·
          11 months ago

          The blue haired libruls saw it as objectifying women

          The chudly cuckservstive types saw it as an effeminate man being gasp not MANLY enough

          And JoCats Fans sit back and wonder why everyone’s so fucking butthurt at a goddamn little parody of “Boys”

    • NaoPb@eviltoast.orgEnglish
      3·
      11 months ago

      I had to Google it and what came up seems to be it’s basically a lone wolf but worded by people who also use terms like alpha male.

      I may be wrong though.

      • MashedTech@lemmy.worldOP
        4·
        11 months ago

        The alpha male gets rebranded every time once the previous rebranding gets ridiculed to death. Can’t wait to see what sigma male gets transformed to

      • Maalus@lemmy.world
        31·
        11 months ago

        Not really, it was supposed to be a person so above the “alpha beta” bullshit, not caring about how people perceive them, that they wrap around the “spectrum” in front of “alpha”. It was meant to be a comedic / sarcastic way to rebuke toxic standards, but it was assimilated into the general “philosophy” of it.

        So basically it’s all bullshit anyway