Was my first experience with polyamory and im dealing with some sads. Would like to talk to people who understand rather than judge.

  • Ideology [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    11 months ago

    It sounds like they were holding their cards close so they could play the field. It hurts to feel like you did something wrong, but I don’t think you’re the one missing out here if you were trying to get involved and they weren’t responding. Imo communicating and getting involved is exactly what you should be doing. And if they didn’t communicate their feelings needs, and trajectory, feeling like they could just throw you out, I think that’s a bullet dodged.

    You’re more valuable than that.

    • SmokinStalin [comrade/them]@hexbear.netOP
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      11 months ago

      They honestly did a wonderful job of communicating. I think their feelings changed a bit before the trip and they just now finnally sorted themselves out enough to communicate. Trip was a month ago tho. So yeah it just sucks.

      Things ended amicably and we both still really wanna be freinds. But if what you say was going on, or like a metamor asked them to, those things would kinda make a freindship impossible. And greiving a best freind is so so much worse than just a breakup.

      Thank you though. The sentiment is a huge help!