I’m not so sure that this post belongs here, and I want to clarify: I’m not asking for psychological help of any kind, just sharing my point of view and that’s it.
Well, the title says it all, at my 20’s I’m pretty exhausted of feeling that my life is going in circles and I’m not really sure where I’m going, I’ve read that many people of this age suffer from the same thing but really?
I mean, I’m really tired that humanity is so stupid and will never change and is constantly creating obstacles to make other people’s lives miserable, and I’m sure that will go on until the end of time.
To be precise I do have goals in my life but really the bad things that constantly happen to me and that are unpredictable only take away more and more the desire to achieve those goals, and in the end I really don’t even know why to achieve them and I end up really losing the motivation to achieve those goals.
Thanks for reading.
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It’s normal to feel this way. Late-stage capitalism is depressing and alienating for most people.
I find that having a community that actually works towards something good helps. Joining a leftist org can help. Keep in mind by leftist org, I mean actually leftist and not a liberal org where they don’t actually want to change the status quo, they will just make you feel even more hopeless with their “nothing will fundamentally change” attitude
To add to this - it is descriptively normal, but it is very, very, very fucked up that we are subjected to this. “To be well adjusted in a sick society is not a mark of good health.” So it’s only normal in the sense that yes, many other people feel that way and, yes, late-stage capitalism will in fact cause many people to feel that way. Our conditions are not normal, though, and we owe it to ourselves, each other, and our children to make sure nobody has to suffer under this a moment longer than necessary.
Yes, very much this. Everyone feels like shit but it is NOT okay.
You can usually get someone to admit they feel the same (even if you have to drag it out of them by asking the right questions) but most people are just ambivalent to the shittiness and accepted it as the default form of existence
100% normal. I’m middle aged and have to conclude you’d seriously need to be fucked in the head to be comfortable in this world. but then again, if you can gather even a tiny ammout of motivation to reach any goals, go for it; be fucked in the head and try to be happy.
Absolutely true, the constant pressure of life is overwhelming, but there is always hope.
Fairly normal, in my work like 50 % had similar quarter life crisis. the depth of aimlessness/pointlessness feeling differs though
As such I wouldn’t say I have a crisis (((((((I think, because this post is a contradiction))))))), I was just wondering how normal it is to feel this way sometimes.
I was tired of life by 8
another thought, there is a reason the suicide rate is 70% lower for black americans then white americans. do you think thats because black people have easier lives? think about it maybe, may provide some insight.
Probably something to do with community.
yes most definitely the main factor, and having it drilled into you since childhood that the world is unfair and stacked against you. theres no fantasy to shatter in your 20s.
Bingo. It’s the number one reason I want to GTFO the boonies, even though when I discuss this with family members they look at me like I have two heads. At the end of the day, hellworld would be a shit-ton more bearable if I had actual friends and neighbors and enough time to develop creative hobbies.
It was something mentioned in the chapo podcast: suburbia is rife with not producing much and consuming garbage. This isn’t me being a snob, but quite the opposite, suburban WASP snobbery is them doing a disservice to themselves.
Incredible statistic, and very thought provoking
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i dont think not wanting to be alive makes you fragile. also are you being sarcastic?
all the time? no not normal. somtimes? normal. also this is hexbear most people here are not average. most of my coworkers and classmates dont hate their lives, most of them also dont care about people other then themselves so thats probably the key.
I’m a lot more stable and happy (will, a kind of happy) in my 30s than I was in my 20s.
I’m a lot more stable and happy (will, a kind of happy) in my 30s than I was in my 20s.
why?
A lot of it is that my material conditions stabilized (housing & employment) as I gained career experience and settled into a decent job. most of the stressors of my 20s were extensions of capitalism’s shortcomings (health care, reliable transportation, crime). The culture shock of expectation vs reality that people experience in their 20s does temper with age
It’s not normal in a good system but it’s super normal under the acceleration of fascism.
datum: it’s been normal for me. but idk if you end up on a site like this if you’re feeling good about everything.
I should mention that I used to feel a lot worse, a lot more isolated, and a lot more powerless. I no longer experience regular suicidal ideation. that might be because my problems weren’t as deeply neurologically rooted as others’, or it might be because i now have friends, relationships, and life experiences that orient me a little better in this world. If it helps, the thing that did it for me was moving to a different city.
If it helps, the thing that did it for me was moving to a different city.
That is consistently the only thing I can think of that could possibly help me, besides magically becoming not poor
I think the view that political problems are caused mainly by people being stupid rather than powerful, motivated actors can only lead to misanthropy and nihilism.
For me it’s normal because I have had debilitating depression for my entire life
It comes and goes for me. Certainly I felt that way sometimes, for some periods in my 20’s
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I really feel this, I’m in my mid 20s and am very tired of my life. But hey, it’s better now than it was before I started transition, so at least that’s something.
Do you get used to the fatigue or does something change in your life to stop you feeling a little better than before? 🤔
Well for me something did change and that was starting estrogen lmao, that’s made life so much more bearable but that doesn’t work for everyone.
Yeah, normal. It’s pretty normal. I imagine this feeling sets on pretty heavily in the 20’s when the optimism of getting a great career starts to end and even if that career that happens, you’re running with peers whose families come from money and no matter how well that pay check stacks up, it doesn’t equal a house down payment. Unless you’re rich of course and you’re just surrounded by all life’s pleasures.
I mean, read history books from a leftist perspective. Read leftist theory, Lenin, Kwame Ture, etc, whoever appeals to you. Remember you’re not alone in this feeling. This life is profoundly alienating and there are many people who aspire to something better.
