So, I’ve worked at my current job for around three years. I had a really good crew when I first started, and one by one, they all fell off for various reasons. My favorite coworker went and got a job at my old job (same field) and I got stuck picking up the pieces.

There are two owners. A husband and wife. They have been spending a lot of time out of state essentially on vacation and ignoring the shop. Also, my current batch of coworkers are not a good team. They’re not helpful and just don’t have their head in the game. I wouldn’t care so much except it all falls to me to pick up the pieces when they don’t pitch in.

Anyway, I took a meeting with the old place I worked at, and got a good offer. Plus, my favorite coworker from the current job works there, and I’m excited to get the dream team back together.

Why do I feel so bad about leaving? The bosses have been completely unavailable and I get no support anywhere. Hours are going down to zero and I can’t afford to live.

I haven’t exactly been vocal about my problems, because I’ve been trying to act like a leader and rally the troops

I guess I’m just looking for kind words of encouragement from internet strangers.

  • context [fae/faer, fae/faer]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    Why do I feel so bad about leaving?

    probably internalized capitalist propaganda about how employees are supposed be loyal and nonsense like that. sounds like you should accept the new offer, and giving no notice is pretty funny.

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      1 year ago

      That’s what my shoulder devil is saying. I took the job. That’s a done deal.

      The coworker I mentioned quit on them when they were both in Florida and they didn’t come back to help figure things out. All I got for saving the business was a 50¢ raise. That was a year ago. I have a feeling I would never get another raise either.

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        1 year ago

        I’m not sure about the internalizing capitalist agenda stuff - but if it were me (and I have been in a similar position in the past) - you probably know how shitty life is about to get for all your soon-to-be former coworkers.

        Even if they are awful, you may think they don’t deserve the shit show that’s awaiting them when you (the person who takes up the slack) bails.

        The thing is, it’s already shitty for you, and nobody is going to look out for your mental health/prosperity but you. And worst case, your former coworkers can find some place else to go.

        I’m glad you accepted the offer, now the only (minor) challenge will be sticking to it despite pleading from your manger/counter offers.

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          1 year ago

          This is the closest to my thinking. Deep down I like my old coworkers as people. One of them is my sister.

          The real answer is I’m a lot more replaceable than everyone thinks. If anyone would have taken the last three years to memorize the easy parts of my job that I have written down everywhere their transition shouldn’t be that tough.

          I’m off to my first day back at the other job, so hopefully that will be the experience I need to realize how much better I’m about to have it