Hi! The goal of this thread is to provide a place for people to share small things, small questions, vents, things you wouldn’t make an entire post for or that might be slightly off topic :)

Please feel free to use it as a general discussion place for anything trans related!

    • Seanchaí (she/her)M
      7•2 years ago

      I’m both happy to hear this and sorry to hear this comrade.

      First of all, I am so happy for you being able to discover a more authentic self, trite as that sounds I have been there and I deeply believe in the important of constant re-evaluation of who you are at your core. It’s essential for growth.

      Secondly, I am so sorry to hear that it’s been rough. As someone who came out in adulthood, I feel that pain. It can be so difficult trying to recontextualize relationships, and to foster an understanding of the ways this must change how people see you, as well as the ways you need people to treat you the same. It’s such a delicate thread to weave.

      It can also be quite painful to feel like you’ve “missed out” on life. Hard not to dwell on the “normal” experiences that cis people deify as a standard part of childhood but that you weren’t privy to. And to consider all the ways your life would be different if you had access to puberty blockers/hrt younger in life.

      All I can say is that while it’s crushing to wish you had transitioned at the same time all the cis kids were transitioning into cis adults, while you can’t help but to think that was the best time to transition. The second best time to transition is now.

      If you want to talk, I’m here, either in thread or via DM <3

      • @xenautika@lemmygrad.ml
        2•2 years ago

        really appreciate it comrades, thank you <3 i’m taking it slow, experimenting with appearance and presence and all, really trying to deprogram some old thoughts i adopted because trying to mask all this time :|

      • sometimes ashleyOPM
        2•2 years ago

        And to consider all the ways your life would be different if you had access to puberty blockers/hrt younger in life.

        I used to fall into this trap so much. Such a sad road to go down. I’m really lucky to not dwell on those things anymore. It really made my life a lot better to focus on healthier things

    • sometimes ashleyOPM
      5•2 years ago

      I also transitioned at an older than usual age. I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. I know how it is. I used to get filled with regrets about it, but at the end of the day, like they all say, the best time is now.

      And honestly, the outcome has been amazing. It’s not perfect, but I have an inner peace with myself I never thought I would have. I don’t know if that’s any encouragement, but please feel free to reach out anytime.

    • @RedSquid@lemmygrad.ml
      3•2 years ago

      Don’t have much to add to what seanchai and ashley said, I am also an ‘elder millennial’ and started transitioning late, and was for a while kind of resentful that I’d ‘missed out’ on my youth or whatever.

      The important thing is just to make the most of the situation you are in now, and trying (I know it’s not easy) not to dwell so much on what could have been. We can’t change the past and while it’s ok to have regrets - it’s natural even - we can’t let them define us going forwards.

  • Seanchaí (she/her)M
    8•2 years ago

    It’s duleasc season! Dulse is purple seaweed that we fish up and then lay out on stones in the sunshine to dry. It’s so tasty, I’ve missed it and am excited to snack on some this afternoon.

    Dulse is an important part of combatting my neverending salt cravings