• rusticus@lemm.ee
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    Dude, Hermoso herself said it was non consensual. How can you justify suing HER since it happened to HER. Do you know what she was thinking?

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      My point is, people here pretend as if they know everything what has truly happened. While we are just observers, we do not know actually has been said at that right moment (or do we?). I do not justify anything, never claimed I was justifying anything.

      Certainly he can he an ‘‘POS’’ but I don’t know. I don’t know him that much, do not follow him and do not know him personally.

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        1 year ago

        You can see that he kissed her on the lips and she said she didn’t want or consent to that. What more evidence do you need? Do you think she is lying?

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          Yes, we can see he did that. Yes, she said that afterwards. She showed no signs of it at that moment.

          I’m not saying she’s lying, I’m saying that the people on here pretend to know everything.

          Personally, I’m curious how this goes. What more evidence I want? Nothing. Don’t think there’s more unless we can actually get a video with sound where we hear what both of them say.

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            So you don’t want any more evidence. So you either believe her or you think she’s a liar. Which is it?

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                Yes, you believe the abuser caught in video but you’re too much of a coward to admit it outright.

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                No. You didn’t. You said “I’m not saying she’s lying”. That’s not the same.

                Do you believe her statements or do you think she’s lying?

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                  Honestly? I don’t know what to believe. She could’ve as what was called “spontaneous agreement” and later on regretted and now saying she doesn’t want it.

                  Or she did not want it from the start but again how should I know when - I was not there to hear it?

                  I can say “I believe her” and then I’d be wrong. I can say “I don’t and believe the guy” and be wrong. Doesn’t change a thing. You are making this personal just like the other two.

                  My point still stands, people here pretend to know everything while we all were not there hearing it all.

                  So for what’s worth it - I do want to thank you for the respectable discussion. However I don’t like when things become personal in a discussion because that’s when the actual argument and discussion fades away.

                  I hope though, whatever happens, it will be with full transparency and the right person will be punished.

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                    When someone in a position of power and authority does something like this to someone who is under their power, it is 100% inappropriate. The person in a position of power is always at fault, ESPECIALLY if that person then accuses the other of lying. This should not be a debate and I’m disappointed in your apparent lack of judgement. Do better.

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            Yes, we can see he did that. Yes, she said that afterwards. She showed no signs of it at that moment.

            1. please explain what kind of “sign” you are thinking of.

            2. please then make an earnest attempt to empathise: you are in a public situation, your boss, who has an immense amount of control over your future career, makes an unwanted sexual advance. how confident do you feel enacting the “sign” in point #1

            3. please then rate, on a scale of 1-10, where 1 is “not at all convincing” and 10 is “completely convincing”, the “sign” in point #1, and the public statement after the fact that the kiss was not consensual, in terms of you believing that Hermoso did not consent. in rating the public statement after the fact, please bear in mind the risks of the public statement to Hermoso (including the lawsuit mentioned in this article, the potential career damage in point #2, and the potential harm that thhe player is likely to cause to people who have experienced sexual assault, were she to be discovered to have been lying about not consenting)

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          It’s not empiricism. He’s disguising nihilistic cynicism as skepticism.

          His argument boils down to he think that we should doubt someone when they tell us their own feelings. He’s claiming that if we don’t have 100% certainty about something being true, then we have 0% certainty. It’s almost a retreat into solipsism, suggesting that because we can’t know with perfect certainty, then we have perfect uncertainty.

          Doubting that someone who says “I didn’t want to be kissed” didn’t actually want to be kissed is to outright call them a liar. It’s victim blaming. He’s just trying to mask that behind a false veneer of skepticism and mental acrobatics because he knows that his position actually sounds appalling when presented straight-forward.

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            While we are just observers, we do not know actually has been said at that right moment

            Empiricism: the theory that all knowledge is derived from sense-experience.

            The argument seems to be that we cannot make any determination on this unless we have first hand knowledge and have experienced the event directly ourselves.

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              The argument seems to be that we cannot make any determination on this unless we have first hand knowledge and have experienced the event directly ourselves.

              Using this methodology makes all concept of justice moot. If we can’t make a determination without firsthand knowledge, then we can’t ever prosecute or judge anyone but our own selves. No reasonable argument can ever be made if this is the foundation one relies on. Thus, it is an absurd retreat into solipsism.

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                Just that the “arguments” and wording of these comments read very autistic, not just your own.

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                  I don’t really know what that means… It’s just a really weird thing to comment on a post. Even if I were autistic, how would that matter and what effect would it have on the discussion?

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                    The way you focus on concepts like empiricism, nihilism, solipsism, other isms, instead composing a straightforward reply that is to the point comes across autistic. The other guy’s doing the same so maybe it’s just typical conversation on here.