Have any queer vibes to share? Here’s your place! 
Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
No cishets allowed! 
Have any queer vibes to share? Here’s your place!
Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
No cishets allowed!
Throwing out gay stuff in gay thread:
Dating struggles
Asked out a guy for the first time in my life today. Turns out he already has a boyfriend :agony: so there’s another L for me. On the other hand this guy is so
that I don’t think he realized that I was asking him out. I didn’t directly ask him out but I did say I was bi and then directly after asked if he had time to do stuff this weekend, so first he fiddled through his phone and then mentioned that he had a date with his bf. This guy is peak 
. The alternative could be that it was a masterclass in “totally down to hang out but only as friends”.
Sexuality struggles: Is it normal to be more attracted to one gender than another as a bisexual and then have it switch? Is it normal to be romantically attracted to girls but only sexually attracted to guys?
Do note: I’m not looking to expand beyond being bisexual. That’s the only label I want to use, even if I’m technically pansexual or something.
I think both those things are normal.
It’s super common to kind of go back and forth in terms of what gender you look at/think about. It happens to me, and to many other people I have talked to. Sometimes this gets called the “bi-cycle”, which is funny, but also not a good term because its not actually predictable like a cycle. If you ever end up in a serious relationship with a guy, it might send you to the gay end of things for a while, but you’ll probably still notice women.
You definitely also hear people who talk about being sexually attracted to one gender and romantically interested in another. It’s not weird, and doesn’t mean you’re not bi. But, is it possible that you’re not so romantically attracted to guys because you grew up in a heteronormative society? Like if you only saw straight couples when you were young you might subconsciously imagine them as the only way be in a romantic relationship. Not saying that’s what’s going on, just a thought.
Either way, good luck with the gay shit!