There is this girl I like, in my dancing class. I want to know if we connect on other levels. I don’t want to straight up ask her what her hobbies are. I want to make it feel natural. Believe me, this makes sense within the context.
We usually talk a little bit before the class starts. So that’s really the best opportunity to ask.
“What have you been up to lately?”[wait to see if they mention their hobby].
“I’ve been [insert your hobbies here]. Have you ever tried it?”
“No? Well what do you like to do for fun? Oh I’ve tried that too/never done that.”
Nice! That ought to work. Thank you!
Just want to add. Don’t ask them a question, waiting with a prepared response to whatever they say. Go into the conversation with an idea of what you want to say, sure, but don’t ask someone a question you don’t intend to fully listen to the answer of in an attempt to make a smooth segue.
If you ask what she’s been doing lately, and she doesn’t happen to mention her hobbies, but she does engage the conversation with you and tells you about her week, day, whatever, make sure you’re present and listening, and don’t immediately blow her response off with, “well I do XYZ, ever try?”
You got this!
please post your updates
I will, but I only see her about twice a week.