get a job at local walmart / krogers / etc. Try doing full time but if you can only handle part-time, stick with that
after doing that for a while (at least 3-4 months, pref. at least a year) go to the local community college and ask about doing a GED (high school diploma)
take it slow at first. maybe one class at a time. try to work your way up to 3-4 classes, OR 1-2 classes while holding down a job. keep an eye out for a better job.
once you’re getting toward the end of your GED, talk to your counselor about your career goals.
Take a 30 minute walk every day regardless of weather.
Take three months off from video games. The first three weeks will suck. Remind yourself several times a day that this is for something possibly better.
Don’t linger on your past mistakes beyond a reminder of where you don’t want to be. Buildingg your character is a path filled with wrong turns and mistakes. The best we can do limit the effects of those mistakes based on our setup. … Build character like you would in a rogue like if that’s helpful
Develop emotional awareness and intelligence. That’s a book and a skill.
Talk to people with the respect you want to receive.
Accept the parts of yourself you can’t change. You’re 5’ 3". Stand tall and own your space.
Shittles… I need to do some of this stuff myself. Ha!
And start walking and counting calories today. Cutting weight can happen later, you start by figuring how much you’re actually eating then slowly reducing it.
And if you start exercising by running while out of shape and obese you’re just going to be too miserable to keep going. So you walk, figure out how much it takes to get exhausted then do it every day you can. I once did 10k steps every day indoors. What was that like? 3 hours of walking in circles. But it was what I could do. From there start trying other things trying to find things that have reasonable impact that aren’t so miserable you won’t do them.
If you have to choose between dieting and exercising, pick exercising. A sedentary lifestyle destroys motivation in all aspects of life. Every other aspect of self improvement is going to take a long time to see real benefit, but it doesn’t take long to get fit enough to notice and it impacts every aspect of your life.
Also numbers are easy to overprioritize. The goal is health. Not some amount you can lift, not some distance you can bike, not a waistline size (though I’ve heard it’s a useful indicator for heart health), not bmi, and not weight. All of those numbers can help you figure out how healthy you might be, but I’ve seen people walk into eating disorders and body dysmorphia over all that and the fact is you don’t need to look like a movie star to be healthy.
I know all greentexts are fake, but:
Shittles… I need to do some of this stuff myself. Ha!
And start walking and counting calories today. Cutting weight can happen later, you start by figuring how much you’re actually eating then slowly reducing it.
And if you start exercising by running while out of shape and obese you’re just going to be too miserable to keep going. So you walk, figure out how much it takes to get exhausted then do it every day you can. I once did 10k steps every day indoors. What was that like? 3 hours of walking in circles. But it was what I could do. From there start trying other things trying to find things that have reasonable impact that aren’t so miserable you won’t do them.
If you have to choose between dieting and exercising, pick exercising. A sedentary lifestyle destroys motivation in all aspects of life. Every other aspect of self improvement is going to take a long time to see real benefit, but it doesn’t take long to get fit enough to notice and it impacts every aspect of your life.
Also numbers are easy to overprioritize. The goal is health. Not some amount you can lift, not some distance you can bike, not a waistline size (though I’ve heard it’s a useful indicator for heart health), not bmi, and not weight. All of those numbers can help you figure out how healthy you might be, but I’ve seen people walk into eating disorders and body dysmorphia over all that and the fact is you don’t need to look like a movie star to be healthy.