• MeanElevator@aussie.zoneEnglish
    17·
    11 days ago

    Spent a good chunk of the day applying for roles in different departments. There’s 3 I am super keen on, wish me luck.

  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
    13·
    11 days ago

    good deed done for the day. Someone on reddit wanted a postcard from aus so just got that done. Jesus my writing is appalling.

  • Force_majeure123@aussie.zone
    13·
    11 days ago

    In non America/Baku news I’m drunk and have just completed day two in a row of after-work outings. This one was beers and burger, no complaints. Also my probation review went great, was told unless I majorly fuck up/change behaviours I’ll pass no worries. One more after-work outting to go tomorrow, actually looking forward to it.

  • Briongloid@aussie.zoneM
    13·
    12 days ago

    Was the previous daily deleted by accident?

    Edit: Baku’s account isn’t showing up.

    The server returned this error: couldnt_find_person.

    Following some research into yesterday’s thread, which I still have access to minus Baku’s comments which were deleted by their account at around midnight, it appears this is American election related.

    I have no issue with free discussion and civil disagreements, I have no intention of over controlling discussion on this forum.

    My main concern here is how the history of this groups previous dailies may have been impacted as a result of a user who had been posting the daily and I will need to start considering more appropriate means of posting dailies to avoid this kind of issue going forward.

    As some of you may have noticed, I’m not too talkative most days and I mostly just check in at midnight if I am awake to make sure the previous daily ends and the new one begins. I don’t have any reports to action, but I will need to have a look at the threads I personally have access to some more. But most importantly I am going to have to consider how to ensure a more consistent daily thread that is less likely to disappear, whether I can return it myself or not, etc.

    Additionally, it’s about time I start investigating Lemmy’s bot mechanics, I was waiting to complete my current personal server migration to a complete hypervisor solution rather than utilising one of my already overworked Raspberry Pi’s, I’ll have to get on to this matter more quickly.

    Edit2: It’s starting to look like I will be unable to return the posts that where deleted as a result of Baku’s account nuking, I do have personal access to all of them without their comments as it was actioned by me in featuring them, but the posts themselves where of the account that is now no longer available.

    This makes it clear that I need to make some changes going forward in how the daily functions.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      7·
      12 days ago

      Hmm that’s certainly something I didn’t see coming.

      Thought the threads would still be here but it looks like they were totally wiped out of existence.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      6·
      12 days ago

      I have screenshots, I went off on him. I take the blame tbh.

      I’ve unsubbed to c/Melbourne, so he’s free to come back or whatever he wants to do. If you want the screenshots to make an assessment, DM me and I can send you them.

      • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
        5·
        11 days ago

        I appreciated you pointing out that his initial comment that prompted your reaction was quite thoughtless, but can tell from previous interactions that you two had some tension.

      • Briongloid@aussie.zoneM
        7·
        12 days ago

        Thank you for that, I have taken a look at them with greater context of what was being discussed in yesterday’s thread.

        We hadn’t dealt with this kind of issue from regulars that I have seen from my notifications or the modlog until now, I would have preferred Baku had reported your comments so that I could have actioned them when I came online at midnight.

        Part of the issue may have been my lack of participation in the daily discussions themselves, so I haven’t been as viewable as I should be, but I have been checking daily for months. It’s important that we avoid letting these kinds of interpersonal issues feel like they aren’t going to be actioned by the mods.

        Your comments directed towards Baku appear to be targeted in a way that are absolutely against the community rules, the subject matter is allowed as we haven’t barred specific topics from the daily, only the manner in which users talk to each other. I have yet to issue just a temporary band so far on this platform, so I am learning as I go.

        Considering that part of this issue is the lack of established rules, penalties and more importantly the lack of assurance that I will action issues in due time, this isn’t a permanent ban. You will be welcome back in 72hrs, knowing that I can’t guarantee not issuing a permanent ban if an issue like this where to occur by yourself or another user in the future.

        Today was a weird day for everyone, come back in 3 days and let’s get back to normal appropriate behaviour. I will be looking at where I went wrong and hopefully have a community post in how we can avoid this in the future by the time you come back.

        Edit3: I have spoken to both Starchy & Baku in DM’s, Baku didn’t intend for the previous threads to go down and they are currently still publicly viewable here;

        https://sh.itjust.works/c/melbourne@aussie.zone

        Edit4: It’s looking like it may take 30 days for federated instance to scrap deleted account content, hopefully that is the case, and we can archive the daily’s posted by Baku’s account before they are completely gone.

        • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
          5·
          12 days ago

          Understood and accepted, no arguments from me, I was in the wrong. Thank you for looking into it, and I appreciate you taking the time out of your night to do so.

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      5·
      11 days ago

      An automated daily posting would be the right way to go, if it’s possible. It means it’s not dependant on any specific user being awake, remembering, or have obligations to remain a user here, in case they ever wish to delete their account. A lot of people find value in the community here and it would be a pity to loose that. I feel terrible about the interactions I saw yesterday. I hope Baku and Spud both Ok and would like to come back when they are ready.

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
      4·
      12 days ago

      I just noticed that. Is it just the thread or is Baku nuked?

      It’s my damn fault. I brought up an awkward topic. :( My comment should have been deleted, or I should have received a warning to not talk about such things. Not him.

      Is he going to be allowed back?

      • Briongloid@aussie.zoneM
        4·
        12 days ago

        It is looking like they deleted their account and comments, without seeing their comments I don’t have a full picture of whether they said anything that would warrant a banning of future Baku accounts.

        I haven’t seen anything so far that was by you and targeted harassment toward other users.

        • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
          5·
          12 days ago

          Yeah my comment was nothing like that. Just discussing a controversial action by a public figure.

          Baku is a regular and not a troll. He just said something divisive.

    • Aradina [They/Them]English
      3·
      11 days ago

      It really really should be posted by a specific account or something. Could maybe set one up and give regulars the password on request? Only allow dt threads on it and revoke access for misuse?

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    12·
    11 days ago
    🤬

    Two years ago, I went to see a psychiatrist for an ADHD assessment. Did some questionnaires, as did my mum, and after a half an hour telehealth consultation, I was told I have ADHD. The report I was given by this psychiatrist was riddled with spelling and grammar mistakes, and claimed things like I have binge eating disorder and insomnia, when I don’t have either of those things. The directions for medications were vague, and the GP I went to had trouble following what was written. This GP isn’t thorough himself, writing me a mental health care plan with also lots of mistakes, and one that said I was going to see a psychologist because of three types of insomnia that you can’t have all at once. But to avoid paying $60 out of pocket to see the more thorough GP up the road, I didn’t really have a choice. Besides, that GP said, “Really?!! We would’ve picked that up when you were younger,” when I said I thought I had ADHD.

    So today, the GP asked me if I really needed medication. I tell him that’s his job to determine, but I have always struggled to stay afloat doing pretty much anything, and it’s made my life hell. He then asked me if I wanted to try a different medication, so he can change the permit to allow him to prescribe it. I told him I didn’t want to try a long-acting medication again, because I couldn’t sleep. He then tells me that he can’t change the permit to let me have something else, and the report is shit, and I should see a psychiatrist again.

    $900 out of pocket to see the first psychiatrist, probably a couple of hundred to try medication for depression and ADHD, lots of learned helplessness and valuable time lost… and now even more money down the drain. The price gouging is insane, exploiting people who are struggling and in need of answers. I’ve also heard of people who got a diagnosis, and somehow they’ve missed bipolar disorder when taking their hx, and oop, they’ve ended up with stimulant-induced psychosis.

    I went to the optometrist last year, who said I have a focusing problem with my eyes. Maybe that’s what it’s been this whole time.

    It just makes me wonder if I should even bother trying meds, or if I should just give up. But I cannot keep maintaining the status quo, or I will be giving up on life.

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      3·
      11 days ago

      Hopefully you can get a second opinion from a different psychiatrist. I have heard stories before of people having additional conditions to adhd, which get missed because adhd symptoms can overlap with other things. If the medication is causing your life quality to be lower than without it, this sounds like it’s definitely the wrong stuff and needs a review. Taking it should be helpful, not make things worse.

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    12·
    11 days ago

    How good is this weather? I’ll be school shoe shopping today with the kid where she’ll complain that they’re all ugly and it’s hard to choose between ugly and ugly.

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
    10·
    11 days ago

    It’s OK to discuss difficult issues, even if it gets a little ugly sometimes.

    Because that means we are talking which is far better than not talking at all. If we don’t talk about difficult issues then how can we learn about each other and the issues.

        • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
          10·
          11 days ago

          think you might be underselling it. I think a fairer assessment is some people got attacked.

          Lets just revist our rules shall we:

          We might not agree about everything, but we always strive to stay civil and respectful.

          • Aradina [They/Them]English
            5·
            11 days ago

            I probably am underselling it, I didn’t see it all, just a few bits that are still up.

            • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
              4·
              11 days ago

              same, I don’t really see there was any bad comments

              but here’s the thing

              if people aren’t angry and motivated in this world then that’s a problem

              we just have to be civil working together to try to sort if out and see what we can do

              • Briongloid@aussie.zoneM
                4·
                11 days ago

                The comments I saw were fairly serious directed attacks towards another user, even if they were in the heat of the moment.

                There was enough to understand why the user deleted their account in the moment, I had to consider permaban before settling with a tempban on just this occasion.

      • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
        4·
        11 days ago

        I’ll tell you what happened. Spud took offense to something Baku said. Baku wanted to know what it was that was offensive. Spud launched an attack. Baku retaliated. Shots were fired from both sides about what one should be allowed to post. More shots and then Baku deleted his account.

        • Nath@aussie.zone
          2·
          11 days ago

          Wait, what? I guess that explains why Baku messaged me out of the blue last night. It must have been just before he deleted his account.

          I’ve been too busy at work; I missed everything. Nobody reported anything though - I would have seen that.

          Hrm, he’s nuked his account entirely this time, not simply marked it as deleted. That means that all the posts/messages he’s created over 18 months are deleted from the database. Which will include many daily threads.

          Not sure what I think about that. I think I’ll go for a run and ponder stuff.

      • Duenan@aussie.zone
        3·
        11 days ago

        I didn’t see anything since I was away doing movie time.

        Only came back to the aftermath of it.

        Not entirely sure how bad it was.

  • BakuToo@aussie.zoneEnglish
    133·
    11 days ago

    I feel like I owe the DT regs an explanation

    I didn’t delete my account because of the argument. I was in the wrong, regardless of whether or not I used anything that could be considered a personal attack. I was being an arsehole to Seagoon, and StudChud responded in kind to me

    However, I have recently been feeling like a couple of people within the DT have been consistently hostile to me. StudChud in particular has gone off on me numerous times. Sometimes I deserved it, other times I don’t think I did. Then 2 other people over the last couple of weeks have really really irritated me. There was one particular interaction I had with somebody that really rubbed me the wrong way, honestly probably irrationally so. I feel like I can usually do okay with shrugging off both outright aggression, and hostility in subtext/random downvotes. But I really just reached the end of my tether and it was beginning to remind me of when I was in resi and was the physical and verbal punching bag for 3 other people. I can’t stand that

    Regarding purging all of my content, I genuinely am sorry to every single person who has contributed to DTs. I wanted to just delete my comments, but Lemmy only has two options when you want to delete your account: delete your account and every single post, comment, and image you’ve ever uploaded, or don’t delete anything (which I did last time). Lemmy also has a function which really irks me, where if a post is deleted, every single comment becomes inaccessible to non moderators and administrators. I think that’s ridiculous and tbh think it provides too much power to people that delete their accounts. I would much rather they became inaccessible without a direct link or going through your comment history, like how it works on reddit

    Deleting everything wasn’t an attack on the community or a way to try and get attention. Genuinely. I also realize in hindsight sight that I made up a pretty substantial amount of posts on aussie.zone, and with all of those gone, it seems like half the instance is gone

    And regarding coming back, I don’t think I ever can. Deleting one’s account, and particularly purging all the content on it, is probably the most extreme action you can possibly take as a user. If I just delete everything then reappear a week later, it doesn’t mean shit and really just seems like a bid for attention. I’m not going to do that. I’ll lurk around from another instance, and occasionally if I think I can be uniquely helpful to anybody, I’ll drop in and try to help if I can. But my days as a regular are numbered. Kind of a self exile, if you will. Even now I feel like I’m being even shittier by writing this, but I feel like I need to clarify what happened and actively apologize to everybody. I’m deleting my account as soon as this is posted

    I also feel the need to say - I probably deserve moderator action, too. I don’t think a ban is appropriate since I’m not going to be around so it doesn’t really do much, but my comments towards Seagoon in particular were not acceptable, and I deserved to be called out. After I wrote our my long-winded 2c on recent events, I was already about 70% sure I wanted to delete my account. The magpie post was kind of an attempt to reconcile without accepting I was wrong or my opinion was invalid, not implying that anybody else’s was. After i got "bruh"d by StudChud, I made my decision I didn’t want to stay around, but at the same time, by creating yesterday’s DT, I feel like I more or less signed and agreement that I would ensure the DT remain accessible for at least the entire day. So that’s why I waited until midnight to delete my account. The last few comments I made were basically a case of “I’m done with the lot of you, anybody who talks to me can go to hell” type lash out. Again, unfounded and not fair

    If anybody wants to access the DTs, you have a little while to view them from certain other instances. I believe how it works is posts and comments are purged from the server immediately, but the “notification” if you will, to other servers (who also host copies of all comments/posts) is rate limited and sent one by one. I don’t know that for fact though. You can access them through another instance (ie sh.itjust.works, as Brion linked) until the deletions eventually do federate over. I won’t be doing anything to speed up the process. I also was previously working on archiving all DTs on to web.archive.org, so have a look there. I didnt do the most recent ones before I left though

    And I want to say that I really truly am sorry for all of the chaos, hurt, and drama that I caused. I should have handled things better. @Seagoon_@aussie.zone I don’t know if you received my DM or not, and I don’t know if DMs disappear on account deletions, but I am really sorry to you especially. I was being an arsehole and extremely inconsiderate. I do truly hope your family and friends in the state are doing okay, and make it through the term safe and aren’t denied healthcare or help if they need it

  • Pilk@aussie.zone
    10·
    11 days ago

    Just realised I’m crushing hard on a regular hookup guy at the moment. It’ll sting when things inevitably change and we can’t meet anymore. But accepting the happy chemicals and swooning a little in the meantime. 🫠🥲

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    9·
    11 days ago

    I’m going to wait 2 weeks before approaching my manager again about the outcome of the raise discussions.

    Have kept applying and have a couple more interviews next week.

    Will have to be working outside office hours anyway, and the raise would make it worthwhile, but we’ll see.

    Fingers crossed.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      4·
      11 days ago

      Will it be worth it if you got the raise?

      From the impression I got it felt like they were overloading you with clients and work.

      There’s got to be a point where you have to tell them that you’ve been given too much work or too many clients to deal with?

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
        3·
        11 days ago

        Honestly, I don’t know. The raise would be life changing. I could actually buy a house a lot sooner.

        I am overloaded. And I will need to work outside office hours. But everything has a cost. Depends what we want to sacrifice to achieve our goals.

        In the least, it will give me an incredible ability to handle large amounts of work which I can take with me to another place.

        Life has so many tough decisions.