I dunno, I thought it would be higher. I guess I’m just a slut surrounded by sluts (positive).
What do you think about the number? Does it surprise you? Does it surprise you that it surprises me? Did you expect it to be lower maybe? If so why?
I just find this interesting. No judgement (unless you want that you dirty little gremlin)
There was “discourse” on Twitter recently about “body counts”, and an interesting conclusion people came to through it: if you were a moderately good looking person in a moderately cool city when tinder first hit the market, you body count tended to be WAY higher than most people.
I can confirm, I’m not even that good looking but I was living in Philly when tinder was first a thing and it was a total fuck fest.
Idk if it was a cultural shift or the app getting enshittified, likely both, but dating apps ain’t the same anymore.
this makes sense actually, i shacked up w/ someone i met from work just as tinder was becoming a thing & became single again post pandemic lockdowns and my number of partners is close to average, waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay lower than most of my friends.
why do some people call it “body count”?
are they killing them after or something? lol
What happened to Tindr?
In terms of how it got worse, in my opinion, the biggest issue is that more people started using it who weren’t looking for hook-ups.
There used to be a separation of apps for different purposes: OkCupid if you were younger and looking for a relationship, there was one for older people but I don’t remember the name because I wasn’t older at the time, and then there was Tinder for hooking up. And there were other apps, too, like PoF and others.
Now everyone uses Tinder for everything including finding friends, so that initial hookup aspect is gone. I don’t know how the kids break their volcel pledge these days but Tinder has enshittified so much by getting too popular and mainstream that it’s become the super-app. OkC has also significantly declined and with it the ability to more easily find more meaningful relationships online, in my opinion.
Also, they’re all owned by the same company now. No surprise.
So, FYI, there’s Hinge now, which is sorta becoming the “serious relationship for 25-40 year olds” app, and since it came out I think tinder is slowly reverting to a hookup app.
Interesting, good to know!
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Yeah I remember the influx of people with bios like “Just here for a friend!”
That’s cool, I’m at the busstop waiting for a train.
And then just all the enshittification and bots and weird gimmics. I find that hinge is a good time though
What, no e-Harmony, no Christian Mingle? What about Farmers Only?
I think e-Harmony was the one for older people, right?
Thankfully never interacted with the other two. Are they still around?
Yeah I know a bunch of boomers including my mother who met people through e-harmony.
No idea, but e-Harmony was a personality test one, then their special match maker software would match you with people who’d be your soul mate. If you’ve taken some psych classes beyond the 200 level you’d know it’s a bunch of self selecting bullshit.
what is PoF’s niche?
I think, if I remember right, PoF was the first one among younger people that paved the way and then other, better, and more popular sites came about that drew all the grass-touching normies onto them and made online dating acceptable.
I guess PoF just got a bad rap for being weird because it was the first one that tried to do it when it was still considered socially unacceptable to say you met your partner online. It feels like they never got over that stigma after ironically helping make it acceptable.
I only used it briefly. I think it’s still around though.
yeah, it’s still around, and surprisingly accessible given what literally every other dating site/app has become.
nonetheless it has been slightly enshittified in terms of limiting people’s interactions with the site if they don’t pay. just not as badly as other sites.
They’ve made the amount of likes limited unless you pay. I don’t use it myself since I’m married but i remember videos of people setting up diy swiping devices and just mass liking everyone.
Seems like math to me. If you can only like a few people a day you’re not going to get nearly enough matches to get sex consistently. Coupled with the fact that, presumably, the app still feeds you people who haven’t logged in forever makes sense to me
Not only that but they make it so any matches you do have are sorted to be close to your last like, to encourage you to get a subscription. Also other stuff. Tinder is also weird in that you sort of have to have “game theory” going - If you swipe on someone who doesn’t swipe on you, then you will get shown less times. So you should swipe on people you are certain you can match with. However the app also uses your swipes to figure out your preferences, so just going for “they seem like the type that would be into me” will end up with you not really having any assurance of being shown someone who might strike your fancy.
All the apps do algorithms, but tinders is especially terrible and the one where you really have way out of the “marketplace” mentality.
A bunch of people were really horny.
Peak Tinder was like sex hacking, honestly.
I got in right at the tail end. It was nice. Wish I had been more mentally stable though