I’ve been playing games for almost 3 decades and I’ve owned almost every Xbox, so the online factor is there and overall easily accessible but I just never got this community feel I read in some places, my most played games are probably WWE 2k14 and Tekken 7 and 8, yet I’ve never interacted with anyone, I don’t have a headset and I don’t wanna hear voice or chat while playing though, it just distracts me and I despise losing, but apparently the people connect, make friends and a few even found love while playing their favourite game.

I envy them.

Is like the only hobby I have and tbh it isolated me even more from getting any type of affection or contact.

Some people mention discord but that awful app is terrible plus people act weird there, is like the game is very secondary there and just post cringe stuff instead.

  • Platypus@lemmings.worldOPEnglish
    33·
    2 days ago

    Yeah but I don’t like any of those games. Forcing myself isn’t a solution, if anything makes thing worse

    • Hossenfeffer@feddit.ukEnglish
      71·
      2 days ago

      As I’ve said before, you don’t want to change. Every time anyone offers you advice you dismiss it out of hand then post again about how terrible your life is.

      • Lauchs@lemmy.worldEnglish
        41·
        2 days ago

        Hundred percent. OP seems like a sympathy/pity vampire or something.

        I feel terrible, so many people are taking tine to try and help and at best get met with a “no, I don’t want that.”

        I keep waiting for them to take up my offer to find them free therapy…

    • tal@lemmy.todayEnglish
      3·
      2 days ago

      Yeah but I don’t like any of those games.

      I mean, that’s fine, nothing wrong with that, but your question was how people socialize and make friends in games, and that’s a legitimate answer.

    • Takapapatapaka@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      You’re right, but it does not have to be one of those games specifically : there are many ways a game can be played as a team. Maybe you can try to join competitions on Tekken, which may encourage talking more than random matches, and even in some cases could be played in duo or something making it closer to a team-based game.

      You may also try different games that are not at one opposite or the other on the solo vs. team factor. For example, Rocket League lets you play solo as well as with other people (though I understand it may not be your type of game). Some fighting games like Smash Bros are the same. I’m not familiar with fighting games, so I can’t provid precise names but maybe you can find one where you can play more coop-like.