• latenightnoir@lemmy.world
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    Social privilege is 100% a thing. You can bet that the fact that a white person doesn’t receive subconsciously ingrained doubt and xenophobia from literally everyone else pretty much ensures that a white person will be subconsciously favoured. (edit:) this doesn’t mean that they will necessarily receive a cornucopia of riches, but it pretty much guarantees that they’ll be first pick for the football team, so to speak.

    Same goes for Maleness™ and Cis-ness (?), they are perceived as defaults, as standards. It also applies in the neurotypical-neurodivergent face-off.

    In short, as long as there is any kind of “other” and one is not perceived as part of it, one is intrinsically privileged.

    (edit 2:) And the only thing which trumps social privilege is money.

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      Absolutely there is social privilege, and Im sure white trash living in a trailer park are loving their social privilege of being shit on by everyone and assisted by no one.

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      This kind of shit is why the left keeps driving people away and is losing. This used to be called discrimination. It was easy to understand and uncontroversial. So of course the left had to reframe the issue, play stupid word games and try to alienate as many people as possible.

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        If you want to talk about word games, you should probably look up the history of the term itself. You might be surprised at how old it is and who used it more than half a century ago.

        I don’t think there is any issue reframing. Rather, I think you’re trying to reframe the issue because you don’t want to recognize that white privilege and discrimination are different things. To be more precise, we are talking about racism, not discrimination in general. And precision matters, because when we use these kinds of words to talk about systemic problems, we’re trying to describe things accurately and as simply as we reasonably can.

        So then it comes back to the standard question. Why don’t you like the expression? That’s always the delicate point, isn’t it? A lot of white people don’t want to admit that they were lucky when they got that skin color. Part of that is pride, of course. And that’s natural, but it doesn’t mean it’s good. And then part of it is plain old racism…

        In the end, I agree with you: racist assholes definitely drift away from the left. Good.

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          I’m well aware of the history. You know who isn’t? The 90+% of the population who don’t consider themselves leftists or progressive. If you have to tell them, ”It’s not as bad as it initially sounds, let me spend several paragraphs explaining”, then you have already lost them. If they don’t know the precise academic definition and read something like “even homeless white people are privileged”, they’re going to think you’re insane. Why give yourself that handicap when you can just choose different words to convey the same ideas?

          If you want to prioritize feeling superior, go for it. Just don’t be surprised when the left continues to be impotent and ignored.

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        No, it was always privilege. Discrimination is something else. Also you’re concern trolling and you gotta stop that now.

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          They’re two ways of framing the same issue. Privilege is the absence of prejudicial discrimination. Those who are discriminated against lack privilege.

          The difference is that every single time I’ve seen privilege discussed in the last 20 odd years since I noticed it become a popular term in leftist spaces, someone gets alienated because they take offense at being called privileged despite having a shitty life. It’s happened in this very thread.

          And I’m not concern trolling. We’re about to have a fascist in the White House and several other countries are very likely to fall to them in the near future. We need to be discussing how to convert people to the left, because what we’ve been doing has not worked.

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            “don’t talk about these subjects because it will drive potential allies away” is the definition of concern trolling

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      I was born in a very poor section 8 district right outside of Philadelphia city. My parents were neglectful and abusive, so I went outside and roamed the town alone as a small child. I was beaten senseless multiple times by fellow kids. I asked them why and their reply was always because of the color of my skin and that their parents told them to hate my kind. Eventually I stopped trying to go outside or make friends because I was socially ostracized everywhere I went.

      Nobody wants to hear about my traumatic experiences with racism or xenophobia that lead to long term damage to my social skills, or upbringing in a broken home never experiencing an ounce of love, or living with extreme poverty having to work for every scrap. Im white so it doesn’t fit their narrative. My experiences are automatically invalid because of the color of my skin. Its socially acceptable to hate on white people because we ‘deserve it’. All of us must be so privileged, come from middle or upper classes, never experiencing an ounce of suffering for the color of our skin or if we do its fair and deserved.

      Many people don’t want equality or peace for all, what many really want is vengeance and retribution for themselves even if it perpetuates the cycle of hatred. They want to be the new protected class.

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      The question is whether privilege is the right word for this.

      Privilege kinda describes something above what’s deserved or something unearned.

      You’re describing basic human decency I think which everyone deserves

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        I have been arguing this for years now and all I get is the “bUt tHeY’re BEtTeR oFf sO ThEy arE prIviLeGeD”

        OK, and look at all the people you’re calling “privileged” who don’t agree with you because of your characterization of them. If changing the word gets them on your side isn’t that worth it?

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        Well, it’s an unearned advantage, isn’t it? What else would you call such an advantage other than a privilege?

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          No one did anything to deserve a growing up safely, being healthy, inheriting money, having white skin or even growing up in a certain nation. No one starts from zero, and it’s just an obvious lie if you say otherwise. We as a society, should work on making these differences less relevant, when it comes to success and life satisfaction, wheather that’s through public education, social benefits or reducing racism and prejudice.

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          There’s a man standing on a cliff, and a man hanging off another cliff by his hands, would you consider the man on the cliff to have an advantage, or the man hanging to have a disadvantage?

          I can see it, you tell someone whos also living paycheck to paycheck that just because they’re not queer they are “privileged”, they’re gonna be like, “no, im not”.

          We need better terminology, sticking with this one is just self serving and kind of narcissistic, don’t create culture war, this still boils down to class war

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            I understand what you’re saying, but I highly doubt that swapping out that word would solve the problem. What if we instead said that white people are lucky because they were born white. Instead of white privilege we can call it white luck. Does anyone honestly believe that would solve the problem? And if it wouldn’t solve the problem, then the vocabulary is not the issue.

            This is what I believe. I believe that people who have a privileged background are often resistant to recognizing it, because they want to believe that they got to where they are entirely because of their own hard work, but subconsciously they know that’s not true. So then there’s some cognitive dissonance, and rather than deal with it, why not just complain about the terminology that’s used in modern society? It’s much easier to complain about how someone else speaks then it is to confront your own insecurities or racist values.

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              How about none of the above, how about focusing on the bastards who actually put these racist systems in place instead of focusing on any nomenclature that’s literally only point is “make white cis man feel bad for being white cis man”

              You’re literally drawing a line in the sand and saying “this doesn’t mean anything, but also you’re not allowed on this side of the line” while rich ass hats build a brick wall around both parties.

              You sir, are propagating a culture war, and this infighting isn’t going to be tolerated much when we rise up against the rich people stepping on their common man.

              I suggest you get with the times or get run over.

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              You’re literally taking the opposite lesson you should. People aren’t being offended because you’re taking away their achievements, which you are, you’re also telling the majority of white people that they’re worse than (insert race), because with their privilege they should be more successful than (insert race).

              That’s what’s offensive, besides ignoring racism when it doesn’t fit your narrow definition.

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            This is… so not just a class war, though. It’s intersectional, everything is linked to everything else, class, racism, sexism, homophobia, everything! And sugarcoating the truth just leads to the same thing, over and over and over again.

            No, semantics aren’t the issue here, the issue is that nobody’s explaining anything anymore. Everyone just expects to have their meaning understood through five words or less, then starts arguing semantics without analysing the context.

            It is a privilege to be a white male. And, yes, as long as you’re not part of the 1%, you’re getting shafted regardless. The two are most certainly not mutually exclusive, the privilege being that white guys get less shaft.

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          Basic human decency, including not having who you are used against you, isn’t something people should have to earn.

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            I agree, that wasn’t what I was arguing against.

            But in how things currently are, the very point is that we are not all equally treated with decency and many do, indeed, have who they are be used against them. Thus, it’s currently a privilege to be part of those who are not besieged by the above-mentioned.

            That’s the idea of the “other,” as long as it exists, we cannot apply the average as being “decent.” Because it’s utterly inhuman when you average the two sides. I’d go as far as to say barbaric.

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              I think my point is perhaps more around semantics than politics.

              Privilege as a word suggests one group has something they don’t deserve. Whereas the problem I see is that the other group doesn’t have what they deserve.

              I’m aware this could trend dangerous close to that “all lives matter” nonsense which tried to deny the inequality and inequity of life, this is not my point at all.

              My point only works if we’re in agreement that the “thing” we’re talking about is basic human rights, respect and dignity. If that changes then the conversation changes with it.

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                I understand what you mean, but I am of the opinion that arguing raw semantics in political contexts is like analysing love from a strictly neurochemical standpoint, if that makes sense.

                In this specific situation I’d still call it a privilege. I agree that the default should be decency and fairness for everyone, but, again, it isn’t. Because we as humans have decided to apply different standards to different groups of people. And as long as the norm isn’t decency for all, existing on the “right” side of the divide is a privilege - I was born white, I didn’t bleach myself to get here (I mean no offense through this).

                In the hopes that my point is made clearer, I’d use an analogy (deprecated, see edit): what we have now is the equivalent of playing Monopoly with someone who’s allowed to reroll their dice at least once every roll if the numbers aren’t to their liking, and the process of choosing who gets to reroll is weighted by subjectively defined specifications.

                Edit, because I’ve realised I’ve botched the example: it’s like playing Monopoly, but one of the players has a starting handicap applied (less money distributed, weighted dice which favour smaller rolls, having to pay more for Rent on owned slots, etc.). The rest of it stays the same, in that the process of selection is purely subjective and decided by a third party for everyone else involved.

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                  I understand what you mean, but I am of the opinion that arguing raw semantics in political contexts is like analysing love from a strictly neurochemical standpoint, if that makes sense.

                  The semantic argument matters because it makes a difference in how society (or more accurately, those unfamiliar with the movement) views the movement and its goals.

                  These terms are often a little incorrect and inflammatory to be more meme-able which helps get things off the ground, but that works against gaining broad support from the “opponents” later on so it’s kind of self-limiting. “Black Lives Matter Too” could’ve preempted all of the “All Lives Matter” bs that was used to inoculate people from seriously engaging with the idea.

                  “Privilege” has the same problem because it implies a wish to dismantle things on one end instead of building up on the other. It’s like trying to start a revolution and then antagonizing the general public for just existing in the system you’re trying to change. You’ll never grow to critical mass, and you’ll likely attract some more extreme members to the group that will drag you back too.

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                    This still sounds like a problem of contextualisation, not semantics to me. “Privilege” is an appropriate word, precisely because it is poignant and strikes at the heart of the matter.

                    My solution to the problem you’re describing wouldn’t be sugarcoating the words, but explaining why the words have been chosen. We are seeing the slow suffocation of nuance, and nuance takes more than a couple of words in order to thrive.

                    Plus in my opinion you’re describing solving systemic issues not by changing the system, but by compromise and discourse. I ask you, do we currently have a system which would work well with compromise and discourse, or is it the very trajectory of action which gradually shifted Liberals from Center-Left to Right?

                    If there’s one thing which therapy taught me is that sometimes growth needs radical truth and radical acceptance. Sugarcoating it just lets one simmer in their comfort zone because “eh, it’s not THAT bad since you put it that way…”

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                  That’s fair, that there is relative privilege which can not be removed from the historical context, or undone, is a reasonable point