I know at least 4 (I wanna say 6 but 4 confirmed confidently) righty leaning lads who are anti trans for what they will say are varied, diverse, weighty reasons - who all collectively tell the same story word for word any and everytime trans issues come up…
“I hit it off with a girl on Tinder, then two days in before we met or got serious or even talked all that much (just enough for me to be smitten) they told me they were trans, and I’m not a bigot, BUT IF THEY DON’T PUT THAT SHIT IN THEIR BIO THEY DESERVE WHATEVER HAPPENS TO THEM”
Nobody understands when I explain that their violent response to a trans woman on tinder is why trans women don’t put it in their bio.
Jesus. Just had a moment of empathy. I don’t think I have ever had a first date with someone (yes I am a het cis male) where violence was a real possibility. The very worse I worried about was some sorta scam. Be safe everyone.
Yea it’s a fkd up world, and many people are wild animals, or even worse. Im a cis male too, and the most i ever had to deal with was a girl…[or two] who beat the shit out of me. Some days I have more hope for humanity (myself included) than others yknow.
I completely agree with the commenter above. Self censoring swear words is absolutely ridiculous. Either swear or don’t - that’s your choice.
@Owlchemist Comments that insult other community members (directly or indirectly) without adding anything interesting to the conversation are not welcome here.
Possible counter-point. Or, just another person’s take. And here I go half-doxing myself.
I (40something) grew up at just the right age when swears became commonplace NOT because we were rebellious, but because we were desesnsitized. I know a lot of people my age who feel that self-censored gives them more visceral edgy reaction than actually swearing. And I have had the same feeling/experience. I mean, it’s about the intended effect. Everyone I know swears in front of toddlers nowadays and nobody gasps like they would have 20 years ago. Online, you hear celebrities talk about “my fucking problems” like they’re not swearing at all.
But when I see those stars or hear a beep… especially if it’s in a situation where there’s not always censoring and/or the person is getting emotional, then you know it’s THAT kind of swear instead of the everyday kind of swear. And it HAS that whole feeling. The message is communicated by “f*ck” better than “fuck”, at least to viewers like me.
Or maybe I’m just insane. Hell, maybe my whole generation is.
No, it’s not a community rule, just a pet peeve. I honestly hate it but I think making it a rule would be too authoritarian. I don’t want to be that mod.
My reminder of the lemmy rule against insulting others was directed at Owlchemist. I’ll edit my comment to make that more clear.
If you feel it’s “insulting” to find judgmental comments that add zero to the discuss except being negative to another community member pedantic, I don’t know what to tell you.
In all honestly, ya’ll’s comments are the same kind of negative as mine. Who cares how someone else chooses to write? How is bemoaning someone’s choice of spelling or self-censor “adding anything interesting to the conversation.” It certainly makes that commenter feel like shit. So who’s rule breaking here?
I feel I did no different than the person who I originally replied to. The popped off about how someone writes because they didn’t like it. I said that pedantic and that pointing it out accomplished nothing productive.
If it sounds like I’m being a dick, it’s because I didn’t like the person who wrote f*ck being singled out because something in their life caused them to think it’s best.
I’m trying to defend someone who just wanted to add to discussion and got dragged. So that’s why I’m defensive.
People can talk however they want. Adding an asterisk honestly adds some flavor to it. It’s like, making the curse word taboo again, in a sense. It’s kind of an interesting phenomenon.
Either way, “either swear or don’t” (in the lots of replies here) is one of the stupidest hills to die on that I’ve ever seen. And there are many corpses of me on top of hills.
Antifa literally means “anti-fascist.” Anyone who fought against the Nazis in WWII was “antifa.”
And Scott Adams lost his f*cking mind years ago.
I know at least 4 (I wanna say 6 but 4 confirmed confidently) righty leaning lads who are anti trans for what they will say are varied, diverse, weighty reasons - who all collectively tell the same story word for word any and everytime trans issues come up…
“I hit it off with a girl on Tinder, then two days in before we met or got serious or even talked all that much (just enough for me to be smitten) they told me they were trans, and I’m not a bigot, BUT IF THEY DON’T PUT THAT SHIT IN THEIR BIO THEY DESERVE WHATEVER HAPPENS TO THEM”
Nobody understands when I explain that their violent response to a trans woman on tinder is why trans women don’t put it in their bio.
Shocker.
Jesus. Just had a moment of empathy. I don’t think I have ever had a first date with someone (yes I am a het cis male) where violence was a real possibility. The very worse I worried about was some sorta scam. Be safe everyone.
Yea it’s a fkd up world, and many people are wild animals, or even worse. Im a cis male too, and the most i ever had to deal with was a girl…[or two] who beat the shit out of me. Some days I have more hope for humanity (myself included) than others yknow.
It’s more dangerous to put it in your profile than saying it to someone in person?
You can swear on the internet fyi
Maybe she didn’t want to though
Saying f*ck instead of fuck is just as much swearing. Potentially even more so, since you actively want to avoid word filters.
It is also kind of like saying “f*cking a**hole” isn’t an insult.
I love how much effort you put into pedantry. It’s like you use the most words possible to make the least amount of point lmao
I completely agree with the commenter above. Self censoring swear words is absolutely ridiculous. Either swear or don’t - that’s your choice.
@Owlchemist Comments that insult other community members (directly or indirectly) without adding anything interesting to the conversation are not welcome here.
Possible counter-point. Or, just another person’s take. And here I go half-doxing myself.
I (40something) grew up at just the right age when swears became commonplace NOT because we were rebellious, but because we were desesnsitized. I know a lot of people my age who feel that self-censored gives them more visceral edgy reaction than actually swearing. And I have had the same feeling/experience. I mean, it’s about the intended effect. Everyone I know swears in front of toddlers nowadays and nobody gasps like they would have 20 years ago. Online, you hear celebrities talk about “my fucking problems” like they’re not swearing at all.
But when I see those stars or hear a beep… especially if it’s in a situation where there’s not always censoring and/or the person is getting emotional, then you know it’s THAT kind of swear instead of the everyday kind of swear. And it HAS that whole feeling. The message is communicated by “f*ck” better than “fuck”, at least to viewers like me.
Or maybe I’m just insane. Hell, maybe my whole generation is.
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Are you saying, as a mod, commenters should not be ridiculous and replace vowels with asterisks if they like doing that?
I prefer not to self censor so I don’t have a stake in this. Just curious so I know what to report.
No, it’s not a community rule, just a pet peeve. I honestly hate it but I think making it a rule would be too authoritarian. I don’t want to be that mod.
My reminder of the lemmy rule against insulting others was directed at Owlchemist. I’ll edit my comment to make that more clear.
I completely disagree with you both.
If you feel it’s “insulting” to find judgmental comments that add zero to the discuss except being negative to another community member pedantic, I don’t know what to tell you.
In all honestly, ya’ll’s comments are the same kind of negative as mine. Who cares how someone else chooses to write? How is bemoaning someone’s choice of spelling or self-censor “adding anything interesting to the conversation.” It certainly makes that commenter feel like shit. So who’s rule breaking here?
Why are you being such a ************ about this?
I feel I did no different than the person who I originally replied to. The popped off about how someone writes because they didn’t like it. I said that pedantic and that pointing it out accomplished nothing productive.
If it sounds like I’m being a dick, it’s because I didn’t like the person who wrote f*ck being singled out because something in their life caused them to think it’s best.
I’m trying to defend someone who just wanted to add to discussion and got dragged. So that’s why I’m defensive.
Troll
…I mean, he admitted it’s a pet peeve. Everyone has em. Are yours really better than his, or are you just more used to them?
People can talk however they want. Adding an asterisk honestly adds some flavor to it. It’s like, making the curse word taboo again, in a sense. It’s kind of an interesting phenomenon.
Either way, “either swear or don’t” (in the lots of replies here) is one of the stupidest hills to die on that I’ve ever seen. And there are many corpses of me on top of hills.
You need to have had something in the first place to lose it.