If I behaved as an asshole I was corrected and if i didn’t listen I got a slap. I don’t think I was maltreated. It was dad’s answer for my actions in that moment. And it happened rarely. Every time it happened I learned the lesson. :D
And no you didn’t turn out fine if you think this way. I know, I got slapped as a kid.
Parents obviously have a role to play in respect and education, but it’s very limited when the whole environnement your growing up in is against you (poverty, limited opportunities, crime, police brutality, etc.).
If your first and only answer to correcting bad behavior is violence, then how does a child learn to use anything but violence to solve their own problems? And if you violently attack your child for the smallest infractions, how do they learn that some things like rape, murder, war, etc., are more wrong than a simple lie. And what incentive do they have to tell the truth about anything they do wrong so they can learn from it, when they’re going to get beaten no matter what. Better to risk lying for a chance at not getting beaten than to tell your parents you made a mistake and get beaten for sure.
Yes. Like in old times.
If I behaved as an asshole I was corrected and if i didn’t listen I got a slap. I don’t think I was maltreated. It was dad’s answer for my actions in that moment. And it happened rarely. Every time it happened I learned the lesson. :D
“I got abused as a kid and I turned out fine”
And no you didn’t turn out fine if you think this way. I know, I got slapped as a kid.
Parents obviously have a role to play in respect and education, but it’s very limited when the whole environnement your growing up in is against you (poverty, limited opportunities, crime, police brutality, etc.).
If your first and only answer to correcting bad behavior is violence, then how does a child learn to use anything but violence to solve their own problems? And if you violently attack your child for the smallest infractions, how do they learn that some things like rape, murder, war, etc., are more wrong than a simple lie. And what incentive do they have to tell the truth about anything they do wrong so they can learn from it, when they’re going to get beaten no matter what. Better to risk lying for a chance at not getting beaten than to tell your parents you made a mistake and get beaten for sure.