It’s definitely hard, I have been in much the same place with parents, other family, coworkers etc. I managed to move my mom from a socially progressive centrist to a Bernie Sanders lib but when I started being like “wait the USSR was pretty awesome” it became a little tougher. She’s also not one for politics and readily admits that. She has good core values though and I am blessed that she to an extent takes my word for a lot of things. I definitely had to lighten off for a while though, for a while I laid it on heavy and incessantly as it was all new to me and I just desperately wanted to share with anybody I could get my hands on. When I quit grandstanding so much that’s when things slowly shifted for the better because I wasn’t making it some big conflict. I think parents probably (not a parent so can’t say) just have a hard time wanting their kids to be more knowledgeable than them, especially about something that feels very intuitive and personal to most people love politics.
Hope you can catch a break! I also know the types that even when I lay off still try and instigate arguments with me, are they more like this or would they lay off too in a ceasefire?
It’s hard, I understand. It feels like it’s just “the plain truth” and that you’re supposed to just let it slide. As if someone saying something equally wild and, in the long term, frankly dangerous to normalize wouldn’t be challenged. But yes, even if just for my own sake I’ve resolved to be more picky with my battles, although biting my tongue can hurt just as much.
It’s definitely hard, I have been in much the same place with parents, other family, coworkers etc. I managed to move my mom from a socially progressive centrist to a Bernie Sanders lib but when I started being like “wait the USSR was pretty awesome” it became a little tougher. She’s also not one for politics and readily admits that. She has good core values though and I am blessed that she to an extent takes my word for a lot of things. I definitely had to lighten off for a while though, for a while I laid it on heavy and incessantly as it was all new to me and I just desperately wanted to share with anybody I could get my hands on. When I quit grandstanding so much that’s when things slowly shifted for the better because I wasn’t making it some big conflict. I think parents probably (not a parent so can’t say) just have a hard time wanting their kids to be more knowledgeable than them, especially about something that feels very intuitive and personal to most people love politics.
Hope you can catch a break! I also know the types that even when I lay off still try and instigate arguments with me, are they more like this or would they lay off too in a ceasefire?
Nah, I jump the gun a lot, but they reference it so goddamn much. I need to de-escalate more often, but they are so goddamn frustrating.
It’s hard, I understand. It feels like it’s just “the plain truth” and that you’re supposed to just let it slide. As if someone saying something equally wild and, in the long term, frankly dangerous to normalize wouldn’t be challenged. But yes, even if just for my own sake I’ve resolved to be more picky with my battles, although biting my tongue can hurt just as much.
I’m learning to bite my tongue, but they are sooooooooo libshit in their politics and I am dying here. I can do it though, they’re still my family.